Ask a Man 04 July '25: 'My husband is a cheater & he's lying about his sexuality.'

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now. It took them a while to get married as her family was against them getting married. She eventually ended up marrying him without her parent’s blessing, which caused a rift between her and her family.  Her husband had a close friend that he lived with while they were dating and anonymous did suspect there was something going on between her husband and his close male friend, she later found out, after looking through his phone that he did indeed have a relationship with his friend. Her husband has said that he is not gay and that was just a phase, he has also cheated on her with a woman, however, anonymous is worried that he might be gay and he will want to be with another guy in future. 

Ask a Man 02 July '25: 'My ex has turned me into a side.'

Anonymous is in her early thirties and says she met her now ex boyfriend about two years ago, and things were fine between them until she found he was still speaking to his previous ex.  They spoke about this and she told him she forgave him but she struggled to move on and ended up going on dates with other guys. He found out about her dates with other guys, they talked through it and moved on with their relationship.  They also got into a lot of fights when they’d be out drinking…

Ask a Man 03 July '25: 'The father of child won't allow me to move on.'

Anonymous has known the father of her child for about 10 years after they met during their high school days.  They dated for many years and had one child together, but they ended up breaking up because she was tired of him always being out with friends and not assisting in the household.  Anonymous moved on to a new relationship but her ex started to visit more under the guise of seeing their child, this led to them having sexual relations, and anonymous even broke up with her new partner after they agreed to work on their relationship. After breaking up with her new partner, her ex started to pull back from her.  Recently, her ex came to a party at her home with his new girlfriend and anonymous ended up in a physical altercation with the new girl because she felt disrespected.  Anonymous says her partner is always suggesting that they fix things even though he has this girl in this life.  Anonymous has now blocked him but she’s not sure if she made the right decision.

Ask a Man 01 July '25: 'Feeling unappreciated.'

Anonymous’ partner moved to another province after she found a job there. He helped her move and even bought furniture for her, however, his help was met with scepticism from his partner’s family, which left him feeling disheartened.  Fast forward to now, they’ve had many back and forths in their relationship with anonymous feeling unappreciated. His partner has now lost her father and has asked anonymous for space due to his grieving.  

Ask a Man 30 June '25: I think my partner's family is coming between us.'

Anonymous and her partner have been married for six years now and they have two children together.  Their relationship was ok until they had a huge rift, which left anonymous feeling like her partner’s family is too involved in their relationship. Her partner moved out of their house and told her that he now wants a divorce.  She adds that her partner has also said he was actually only ever interested in having kids. She is trying to salvage their relationship but wonders if she should continue to pursue the restoration of their marriage.

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Ask a Man 26 Jun '25: 'My partner still owns a house with her ex.'

Anonymous has been with his partner for almost two years now and they now live together with her two children.  His partner was in the middle of lobola proceedings when she broke up with the father of her children and they had gotten a joint-mortgage for the house they lived in. Anonymous wants to marry his partner but he’s worried that his partner is still jointly linked to a major asset with her ex.  He wants her to give up on the house so that they can move on with their relationship on a clean slate.

Ask a Man 25 June '25: 'He's only available during office hours.'

Anonymous met a man on a dating site about three weeks ago, and she’s enjoying getting to know him but he seems to only be available to her during office hours.  She confronted him about this behaviour and he said it’s because he’s struggled with insomnia in the past and is often off his phone in the evenings to remedy this. He also added that he’s been single for a long time and is readjusting to dating.  His communication, after hours, hasn’t improved, and anonymous is not sure what to read into this.

Aska Man 24 June '25: 'Should I go or just accept my partner's side girl.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost six years, they’ve been married for two of those years and they have a ten month old child.  Their relationship is generally great, but the problem is a friend that her partner has, as she’s seen videos of them being cozy together and they’ve even exchanged messages declaring their love for each other.  They’ve been fighting about this same girl for most of their relationship, however, she’s not sure if she should give up on what she’s built with him because of the relationship he has with this one girl.

Ask a Man 23 June '25: 'Why is my partner blocking ladies from seeing his social media status?'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for three years. He already had two children before they started dating and they have  since had a child together who is now 10 months old.  They are in a long distance relationship and last week, when he came to visit her for her birthday, he was trying to post pictures of her on his WhatsApp stories when she noticed that he blocked 3 ladies from seeing his stories.  She questioned him about this and he said it was people from work that he blocked from seeing his stories. Anonymous still finds this suspicious and wonders if he could be busy with other people.

Ask a Man 20 June '25: 'She forgave me but she's now cheating on me.'

Anonymous has been with his partner, on and off, for about a year and a half now. They broke up twice in their relationship mostly because he used to go out a lot and also cheated on her.  They are now back together but he suspects that she might be in a relationship with the guy she was having a thing with before they got back together.  He doesn’t have any concrete evidence of this but says she tends to be evasive about her whereabouts and has done some things that make anonymous question her commitment.

Ask a Man 19 June '25: 'I'm not sure if my partner is happy dating a woman only.'

Anonymous met a lady at the gym in the latter part of last year, the lady had a boyfriend, but they ended up having an affair.  Things got more serious between them as they were spending a lot of time together and she told this lady that she’d like to make things official between them which caused a rift between them because this lady was struggling to break up with her boyfriend.  The lady then told anonymous that she’s broken up with her boyfriend, and they continued with their relationship, however, it turned out that this lady was actually still having a thing with her boyfriend.  They fought about this but kissed and made up…

Ask a Man 18 June '25: 'I'm having an affair with my ex's new girlfriend.

Anonymous is in her late twenties and is a mother of an 18 month old baby. She was with the father of her child for about three years but the relationship was toxic and after she gave birth she broke up with her partner and moved out of his family home.  Months after the break up she went back to the house to fetch her things, and this is when she met her ex’s new girlfriend. The new girlfriend then offered to support her child.  They continued to chill and the new girlfriend then kissed anonymous and they ended up having sex.  She’s now confused by her relationship with the new girlfriend, who’s supporting her child, however she’s worried about their relationship being transactional.

Ask a Man 17 June '25: 'My partner feels suffocated by our commitment.'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for two years now and during that they moved in together and built a house together.  A couple of months after they bought the house, her partner started behaving differently, going out more and having fun with friends. Anonymous addressed his changed behaviour, he agreed to spend more time at home but it’s been going on for months now.  Her partner disappeared over the long weekend which caused a rift between them once again. Her partner has now told her that he still wants to have fun and doesn’t want to live like an old married couple.  Anonymous is not sure how to interpret this.

Ask a Man 13 June '25: 'My partner is not improving sexually.'

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2017 and they got married in 2019, she adds that he was a virgin when they met in their late twenties.  Her problem is in the bedroom as he struggles to pleasure her and when she tries to find out what he likes, he’s not sure.  Anonymous has tried many different things to get them on the same page sexually, but their sex life has not been improving.

Ask a Man 12 June '25: 'Caught between a toxic relationship and two married men.'

Anonymous has been with her partner, guy no.1, for about 4 years now and things were fine until he lost his job and it created a burden on their relationship.  She started noticing things about his treatment of her, realising that he often body shames her and is always speaking down to her.  She has now started dating other people: guy no.2, who’s married and has said he doesn’t mind marrying anonymous as a second wife, and guy no.3, who she’s also having a good time with currently but is not sure if it’s just vibes or something more serious.

Ask a Man 11 June '25: 'Why do we struggle to communicate in the right tone?'

Anonymous and her fiancé have been in a relationship for over a decade now and live together with two of their children, including her child, from a previous relationship, and a child they have together. Her fiancé also had a child with someone else while they already in a relationship.  Her problem is how her partner sometimes speaks to her, she feels that he can be very insensitive & harsh towards her. They have also cheated on each other in the past and that keeps coming up in their arguments.  Anonymous her partner basically struggle when it comes to communication.

Ask a Man 10 June '25: 'Did I end break-up with my cheating ex prematurely?'

Anonymous broke up with his partner a few months ago, after five years together, because she cheated on him with a guy she had a history with.  He feels as though things became problematic in their relationship after he lost his job and couldn’t provide for them anymore.  Some time has gone by since the break-up and he’s wondering if he let go of the relationship too easily, he doesn’t want to rekindle the relationship, but he lost so much of himself in it and he is struggling to move forward.

Ask a Man 09 June '25: 'Struggling with accepting my cheating partner's other child'

Anonymous broke up with the father of her child 5 years ago after he cheated on her and impregnated another woman.  He didn’t support their child after their break-up, and only started doing so after their child turned three. He’s now back in their lives and wants to get back together with anonymous after the lady he cheated on her with cheated on him.  Anonymous is open to officially getting back together with him but her biggest struggle with this is accepting the child he had with the other woman, and that woman’s accessibility to him as the mother of his other child.

Ask a Man 06 June '25: 'Does my partner still have a thing with his ex?'

Anonymous met her partner in January this year and says their relationship has been great, he ticks all the boxes and she feels quite comfortable being herself around him.  This past weekend while they were at gathering with friends, she caught him on a video call with another lady who was complaining that he doesn’t make time for her anymore.  Anonymous’ partner says it’s someone he dated before who’s struggling to let him go, their relationship faded but they are still in communication.