Ask A Man 24 June '26: 'He ended our relationship abruptly after 5 years.'

Anonymous was in a relationship for 5 years until her partner ended things between them abruptly in December last year.  She’s struggling to get over him and they still communicate because of a business they work on together.  She’s not sure if he’s moved on yet, and she still has many questions 

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Ask A Man 23 June '26: 'His gambling problem has killed our relationship.'

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 16 years now, and for the most part their relationship was fine until he started gambling.  He became more distant, wasn’t present in their relationship and started defaulting on some of his financial responsibilities.  He got help to fix his gambling problem, but it didn’t seem to help and she feels like he didn’t really take it seriously and he returned to his gambling over and over again.  At some point he became suicidal, and she brought this to the attention of his family but they didn’t really help either.  He’s suggested that they get divorced in order to separate their assets but anonymous feels like she won’t re-marry him as he’s now a different man from the one she married….

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Ask A Man 15 June '26: 'Caught between my fiancé and his mother.'

Anonymous has been engaged to her fiancé for about four years and since then they’ve been living at her fiancé’s father’s home, as the father is late.  Her fiancé’s mother recently had a stroke and this led to anonymous and her fiancé needing to move in with his mother as he’s her only child.  Her fiancé’s job keeps him away from home a lot so she’s often at the mother’s house without him there. This has caused a rift between them as his fiancé’s mother alway complains about her and the things she’s doing in the household. She doesn’t address these things with her directly but will speak to her son about these things. 

Ask A Man 11 June '26: 'He's not the father of my child but I love him.'

Anonymous got a new job back in 2023 and started going on casual dates with the guy that actually hired her, and they ended up having a casual sexual relationship with guy no.1. They never really defined their relationship, and as a result anonymous was seeing other people and ended up sleeping with another man, guy no.2.  She then fell pregnant and thought it was definitely guy no.1’s child but after finding out that she’s pregnant, guy no.2 suspected it was his baby and it later turned out to be true.  She told guy no.1 about the paternity of her child, and to her surprise, he wasn’t moved by this and ended up helping anonymous through her pregnancy.

Ask A Man 12 June '26: " I know I pursued her but now I'm over her.'

Ask A Man 10 June '26: 'Is she gone because the money is gone?'

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and says things took off quickly became serious between her and her partner.  Anonymous says in the beginning of the relationship she told her partner that she likes living life on the fast lane and her partner said she’s fine with that, quote, “she can stand the rain”. Ever since she lost her job, anonymous says,  her partner starting getting a bit cold and she wasn’t the same. There has now been situations where her partner would go out without really giving her much detail about her whereabouts and she finds this suspicious…

Ask A Man 09 June '26: 'Will my man ever grow up?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 years now and says she was taking a break from relationships when she met him.  As a single mother, she was attracted to the guy because he was a single father living with his children. The relationship was going well and they became a blended family and moved in together with her children, while his children moved to live with their mother.  Her partner lost his job and they downscaled so her children moved back to the house that anonymous and her ex husband used to live in.  He was a bit of a party animal and would come back home in the early hours of the morning, she called him out on this and he stopped that behaviour.  They then had a conflict of sorts and he ended up sleeping over the mother of his children’s house...

Ask A Man 8 June '26: 'Will he be able to take care of our family in future?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about thirteen years and they have one child together.  Her partner has never really worked throughout their relationship and hasn’t had enough income to be financially supportive in their relationship.  He recently got inheritance and now wants to marry anonymous but she’s not sure she wants to get married to a man who she doesn’t believe will make something of his life.  He also wants them to move in to his family home, which is something she’s not keen to do. 

Ask A Man 04 June '26: 'How can I get over him?'

Anonymous met a guy last year who she vibed with and they had some really good times together.  He told her he really liked her and that he wanted to date her, but when she told him that she has a 90-day rule before she can get intimate with a guy she’s seeing, he ghosted her.  Months later they rekindled things again and this time she ended up sleeping with him, however, things got weird again between them.  She’s tried to move on from him, but he keeps reappearing in her life and she’s doesn’t know how get over her feelings for him.

Ask A Man 05 June '26: 'Is he "man" enough for me.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and they moved in together about three months into the relationship.  She says her partner is not an open communicator and tends to give her the silent treatment every time they have conflicts, leaving her to be the one to break the ice.  She thinks he should be “manning” up and speaking up in these situations as that’s the kind of man she prefers to be with. She loves him and enjoys his warm character but doesn’t know if this the kind man she could marry one day.

Ask A Man 03 June '26: 'Multiple pregnancy drama'

Anonymous is in his late thirties and he’s currently in the process of getting divorced from his wife who he’s been with for about 18 years now.  Early on in their relationship they were in a long distance relationship and he cheated on his wife with another woman who he impregnated. Over the years his partner, who he also has child with, knew about the other child but wouldn’t really allow anonymous to have a relationship with the child he had with the other woman.  Fast forward a few years later, his wife cheated on him and this led to them separating.  During their separation, he met someone else who he ended up impregnating….

Ask A Man 2 June '26: 'My ex's husband is using the car that's meant for my kids.'

Anonymous broke up with the mother of her two children back in 2018 and as a result she moved away, with their two kids, to her home province.  They both found other partners and she even got married to someone else.  The mother of her children moved away with his car and he let it go because the car would assist her in transporting their children.  His worry now is that his ex’s husband is the one driving the car and it’s not even benefitting his children, he wonders if he should reclaim it from her or just let it go.

Ask A Man 1 June '26: 'My partner's brother is taking advantage of him.'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about 8 years now, she’s in her mid thirties, he’s in his late thirties, they have two children together and she came into their relationship with one child.  They are both orphans and are responsible for their  siblings. She feels like her partner is having to sacrifice a lot in supporting his one brother…. The brother recently got into some trouble and….

Ask A Man 29 May '26: 'What is my husband doing with the sangoma?'

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now and they have two children together.  Her husband got sick and the doctors at the hospital were not able to diagnose what the problem was, so he then opted for spiritual intervention and started visiting a sangoma, despite their staunch Christian background.  This made anonymous uneasy but she supported her husband in his quest to find healing.  She says he’s now behaving differently and spends a lot of time with this sangoma. She doesn’t understand why all of this is happening but suspects the sangoma told her husband that she is cheating. 

Ask A Man 28 May '26: 'Has my boyfriend/colleague ghosted me?'

Anonymous met a guy in 2018 and they started dating four months later, which was in 2019.  When she met this guy, she was in a relationship that was falling apart and it eventually ended and she continued with the guy she met in 2018.  Early on in their relationship he confessed to her that he is in a long distance relationship with another woman who lives in another province. He initially said he’d leave the other woman but later on this woman fell pregnant with his child.  They were able to move on from this but their relationship has been weird and he has been offish towards her….

Ask A Man 27 May '26: 'I'm pregnant, but is my partner ready to commit?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and she’s currently pregnant with their first child.  She feels like they haven’t been on the same page about the pregnancy or the future of their relationship. As a pregnant woman, he hasn’t been caring for her or giving her time and she’s currently in her third trimester.  She doesn’t know what to read into his behaviour. 

Ask A Man 26 May '26: 'Can we fix our sexual differences?'

Anonymous has been in a relationship with her partner for about 3 years and says their relationship is great, and he ticks most of the boxes of what she’s looking for a in a partner.  The only issue she has with him is his behaviour in the bedroom, as she feels like he’s become sexually selfish.  It wasn’t always like this but lately he rushes through foreplay and doesn’t listen to what she wants and always wants them to do things his way in the bedroom. 

Ask A Man 25 May '26: 'Am I ready to get it on after two years of celibacy.'

Anonymous has been single for about two years after getting out of a long-term relationship. She decided to be celibate after the breakup and has kept things that way until she started seeing her former high school crush.  Things were going well with this guy so and it ended up with her getting intimate with him and breaking her celibacy.  She now feels a bit weird about sleeping with him and understand why. She has also found out that he’s actually in a serious relationship with someone else.