Ask A Man 30 June '26: 'Fighting over groceries and his moods.'

Anonymous says when she met his partner he was clean and proper and was a great person towards her.  However, after a while of dating each other, they moved in together and this is when she realised certain aspects of his personality. She says he was always moody and wasn’t as fun as he used to be before.  As result of his behaviour, they agreed to continue with the relationship but live apart. He then moved out abruptly which took her by surprise.  She confronted him about his move and he told her that he moved because he no longer felt welcomed in her space, the talked through it and he has now moved back to their place…

Ask a Man 29 June '26: 'Tired of his lack of ambition'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 5 years, she’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his late twenties.  Her problem with him is that he doesn’t seem to want to work. He’s not interested in looking and he currently doesn’t work. He’s been this way since she’s been with him and when she asks him why he’s not working he has many excuses, including his spirituality.  She’s now broken up with him, however, he wants to get back together with her and she’s not sure if she should, because she does love him but worries about his lack of ambition.

Ask A Man 26 June '26: 'Is my neighbour/boyfriend into me?'

Anonymous met a guy who lives in her complex mid-last year, they hit it off and started dating.  Around September last year they had a miscommunication and things became a bit tense between them. They never really spoke about what happened between them and their relationship just fizzled out from there.  Fast forward to this year, she needed closure about why things ended, so she confronted the guy, and while she felt like he left her, he thought she broke things off. Right now she’s in a position where she’s wondering if he wants to be with her. 

Ask A Man 25 June '26: 'Temptations at work'

Anonymous got married in her late teens and has now been with her husband for 13 years.  Her marriage has been generally fine during this time and they have children with her husband.  She met a man from another country through work, who she was in charge of taking care off while he was in the country, and there’s a spark between them.  She hasn’t done anything with this man despite his advances and gifts, however, she does find herself feeling stimulated by him and this situation.  She’s wondering if this is infidelity and what she needs to do. 

Ask A Man 24 June '26: 'He ended our relationship abruptly after 5 years.'

Anonymous was in a relationship for 5 years until her partner ended things between them abruptly in December last year.  She’s struggling to get over him and they still communicate because of a business they work on together.  She’s not sure if he’s moved on yet, and she still has many questions 

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Ask A Man 23 June '26: 'His gambling problem has killed our relationship.'

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 16 years now, and for the most part their relationship was fine until he started gambling.  He became more distant, wasn’t present in their relationship and started defaulting on some of his financial responsibilities.  He got help to fix his gambling problem, but it didn’t seem to help and she feels like he didn’t really take it seriously and he returned to his gambling over and over again.  At some point he became suicidal, and she brought this to the attention of his family but they didn’t really help either.  He’s suggested that they get divorced in order to separate their assets but anonymous feels like she won’t re-marry him as he’s now a different man from the one she married….

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Ask A Man 15 June '26: 'Caught between my fiancé and his mother.'

Anonymous has been engaged to her fiancé for about four years and since then they’ve been living at her fiancé’s father’s home, as the father is late.  Her fiancé’s mother recently had a stroke and this led to anonymous and her fiancé needing to move in with his mother as he’s her only child.  Her fiancé’s job keeps him away from home a lot so she’s often at the mother’s house without him there. This has caused a rift between them as his fiancé’s mother alway complains about her and the things she’s doing in the household. She doesn’t address these things with her directly but will speak to her son about these things. 

Ask A Man 11 June '26: 'He's not the father of my child but I love him.'

Anonymous got a new job back in 2023 and started going on casual dates with the guy that actually hired her, and they ended up having a casual sexual relationship with guy no.1. They never really defined their relationship, and as a result anonymous was seeing other people and ended up sleeping with another man, guy no.2.  She then fell pregnant and thought it was definitely guy no.1’s child but after finding out that she’s pregnant, guy no.2 suspected it was his baby and it later turned out to be true.  She told guy no.1 about the paternity of her child, and to her surprise, he wasn’t moved by this and ended up helping anonymous through her pregnancy.

Ask A Man 12 June '26: " I know I pursued her but now I'm over her.'

Ask A Man 10 June '26: 'Is she gone because the money is gone?'

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and says things took off quickly became serious between her and her partner.  Anonymous says in the beginning of the relationship she told her partner that she likes living life on the fast lane and her partner said she’s fine with that, quote, “she can stand the rain”. Ever since she lost her job, anonymous says,  her partner starting getting a bit cold and she wasn’t the same. There has now been situations where her partner would go out without really giving her much detail about her whereabouts and she finds this suspicious…

Ask A Man 09 June '26: 'Will my man ever grow up?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 years now and says she was taking a break from relationships when she met him.  As a single mother, she was attracted to the guy because he was a single father living with his children. The relationship was going well and they became a blended family and moved in together with her children, while his children moved to live with their mother.  Her partner lost his job and they downscaled so her children moved back to the house that anonymous and her ex husband used to live in.  He was a bit of a party animal and would come back home in the early hours of the morning, she called him out on this and he stopped that behaviour.  They then had a conflict of sorts and he ended up sleeping over the mother of his children’s house...

Ask A Man 8 June '26: 'Will he be able to take care of our family in future?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about thirteen years and they have one child together.  Her partner has never really worked throughout their relationship and hasn’t had enough income to be financially supportive in their relationship.  He recently got inheritance and now wants to marry anonymous but she’s not sure she wants to get married to a man who she doesn’t believe will make something of his life.  He also wants them to move in to his family home, which is something she’s not keen to do. 

Ask A Man 04 June '26: 'How can I get over him?'

Anonymous met a guy last year who she vibed with and they had some really good times together.  He told her he really liked her and that he wanted to date her, but when she told him that she has a 90-day rule before she can get intimate with a guy she’s seeing, he ghosted her.  Months later they rekindled things again and this time she ended up sleeping with him, however, things got weird again between them.  She’s tried to move on from him, but he keeps reappearing in her life and she’s doesn’t know how get over her feelings for him.

Ask A Man 05 June '26: 'Is he "man" enough for me.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and they moved in together about three months into the relationship.  She says her partner is not an open communicator and tends to give her the silent treatment every time they have conflicts, leaving her to be the one to break the ice.  She thinks he should be “manning” up and speaking up in these situations as that’s the kind of man she prefers to be with. She loves him and enjoys his warm character but doesn’t know if this the kind man she could marry one day.

Ask A Man 03 June '26: 'Multiple pregnancy drama'

Anonymous is in his late thirties and he’s currently in the process of getting divorced from his wife who he’s been with for about 18 years now.  Early on in their relationship they were in a long distance relationship and he cheated on his wife with another woman who he impregnated. Over the years his partner, who he also has child with, knew about the other child but wouldn’t really allow anonymous to have a relationship with the child he had with the other woman.  Fast forward a few years later, his wife cheated on him and this led to them separating.  During their separation, he met someone else who he ended up impregnating….

Ask A Man 2 June '26: 'My ex's husband is using the car that's meant for my kids.'

Anonymous broke up with the mother of her two children back in 2018 and as a result she moved away, with their two kids, to her home province.  They both found other partners and she even got married to someone else.  The mother of her children moved away with his car and he let it go because the car would assist her in transporting their children.  His worry now is that his ex’s husband is the one driving the car and it’s not even benefitting his children, he wonders if he should reclaim it from her or just let it go.

Ask A Man 1 June '26: 'My partner's brother is taking advantage of him.'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about 8 years now, she’s in her mid thirties, he’s in his late thirties, they have two children together and she came into their relationship with one child.  They are both orphans and are responsible for their  siblings. She feels like her partner is having to sacrifice a lot in supporting his one brother…. The brother recently got into some trouble and….

Ask A Man 29 May '26: 'What is my husband doing with the sangoma?'

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now and they have two children together.  Her husband got sick and the doctors at the hospital were not able to diagnose what the problem was, so he then opted for spiritual intervention and started visiting a sangoma, despite their staunch Christian background.  This made anonymous uneasy but she supported her husband in his quest to find healing.  She says he’s now behaving differently and spends a lot of time with this sangoma. She doesn’t understand why all of this is happening but suspects the sangoma told her husband that she is cheating.