Ask A Man - 07 July '26: 'I supported her dreams but she's now drifting away.'

Anonymous has been with his partner since about 2013 and they are now around 30 years of age.  Her partner found a job in another country and this seems to have affected their communication. She doesn’t answer his calls and when they do eventually speak she tells him that she’s busy.  Their relationship is now broken down and he doesn’t know what to do. They also adopted her sister’s child and that relationship is now in limbo. 

Ask A Man 06 July '26: 'He impregnated someone else and now wants me back.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost two years and says he’s been a good partner to her for the most part.  Throughout their relationship he’s been talking a lot about having children, however, she wasn’t ready. He recently revealed to her that he’s impregnated another lady, they ended things as a result. However, the other lady miscarried and he is now back, telling anonymous he wants to get back together, the pregnancy was a mistake…

Ask A Man 03 July '26: 'Will I ever be more than a side?'

Anonymous is in her late thirties and has one child. She’s been dating a guy on and off for about 10 years now, however, the guy has a girlfriend who he has two children with.  She was with someone else when she met him and ended up dropping that guy for this one who has a partner.  She was a side for many years but eventually gave him an ultimatum telling him to leave his main girlfriend for her but he never left the main.  She broke up with him but four months later the guy came back saying he had left his other girlfriend.  They are now dating again, however…

Ask A Man 02 July '26: "A prophecy is ruining my marriage.'

Anonymous met his wife in 2005, and they later got married after having a child in 2010. After getting married they started attending the same church, which is his church. There’s an elderly lady on the worship team at their church who stated that there’s a prophecy that anonymous would need to leave his wife for this lady’s daughter.  This information was shared with anonymous’ wife, but it was told to her as though it’s something that’s actually happening….

Ask A Man 1 July '26: 'My wife disagrees with my African spirituality believes.'

Anonymous is the eldest son in his family and only has sisters, and he’s now also married.  Her wife has deep Christian beliefs and his mother is a sangoma, so his family tends to follow Traditional African religion.  His younger sister has taken ill and his uncle suggested they visit a sangoma in Mozambique who could help his sister.  He told his wife about his intention to support his family in taking his sister to this sangoma but she didn’t take this well and said anonymous is now inviting other spirits into their home. 

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Ask A Man 30 June '26: 'Fighting over groceries and his moods.'

Anonymous says when she met his partner he was clean and proper and was a great person towards her.  However, after a while of dating each other, they moved in together and this is when she realised certain aspects of his personality. She says he was always moody and wasn’t as fun as he used to be before.  As result of his behaviour, they agreed to continue with the relationship but live apart. He then moved out abruptly which took her by surprise.  She confronted him about his move and he told her that he moved because he no longer felt welcomed in her space, the talked through it and he has now moved back to their place…

Ask a Man 29 June '26: 'Tired of his lack of ambition'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 5 years, she’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his late twenties.  Her problem with him is that he doesn’t seem to want to work. He’s not interested in looking and he currently doesn’t work. He’s been this way since she’s been with him and when she asks him why he’s not working he has many excuses, including his spirituality.  She’s now broken up with him, however, he wants to get back together with her and she’s not sure if she should, because she does love him but worries about his lack of ambition.

Ask A Man 26 June '26: 'Is my neighbour/boyfriend into me?'

Anonymous met a guy who lives in her complex mid-last year, they hit it off and started dating.  Around September last year they had a miscommunication and things became a bit tense between them. They never really spoke about what happened between them and their relationship just fizzled out from there.  Fast forward to this year, she needed closure about why things ended, so she confronted the guy, and while she felt like he left her, he thought she broke things off. Right now she’s in a position where she’s wondering if he wants to be with her. 

Ask A Man 25 June '26: 'Temptations at work'

Anonymous got married in her late teens and has now been with her husband for 13 years.  Her marriage has been generally fine during this time and they have children with her husband.  She met a man from another country through work, who she was in charge of taking care off while he was in the country, and there’s a spark between them.  She hasn’t done anything with this man despite his advances and gifts, however, she does find herself feeling stimulated by him and this situation.  She’s wondering if this is infidelity and what she needs to do. 

Ask A Man 24 June '26: 'He ended our relationship abruptly after 5 years.'

Anonymous was in a relationship for 5 years until her partner ended things between them abruptly in December last year.  She’s struggling to get over him and they still communicate because of a business they work on together.  She’s not sure if he’s moved on yet, and she still has many questions 

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Ask A Man 23 June '26: 'His gambling problem has killed our relationship.'

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 16 years now, and for the most part their relationship was fine until he started gambling.  He became more distant, wasn’t present in their relationship and started defaulting on some of his financial responsibilities.  He got help to fix his gambling problem, but it didn’t seem to help and she feels like he didn’t really take it seriously and he returned to his gambling over and over again.  At some point he became suicidal, and she brought this to the attention of his family but they didn’t really help either.  He’s suggested that they get divorced in order to separate their assets but anonymous feels like she won’t re-marry him as he’s now a different man from the one she married….

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Ask A Man 15 June '26: 'Caught between my fiancé and his mother.'

Anonymous has been engaged to her fiancé for about four years and since then they’ve been living at her fiancé’s father’s home, as the father is late.  Her fiancé’s mother recently had a stroke and this led to anonymous and her fiancé needing to move in with his mother as he’s her only child.  Her fiancé’s job keeps him away from home a lot so she’s often at the mother’s house without him there. This has caused a rift between them as his fiancé’s mother alway complains about her and the things she’s doing in the household. She doesn’t address these things with her directly but will speak to her son about these things. 

Ask A Man 11 June '26: 'He's not the father of my child but I love him.'

Anonymous got a new job back in 2023 and started going on casual dates with the guy that actually hired her, and they ended up having a casual sexual relationship with guy no.1. They never really defined their relationship, and as a result anonymous was seeing other people and ended up sleeping with another man, guy no.2.  She then fell pregnant and thought it was definitely guy no.1’s child but after finding out that she’s pregnant, guy no.2 suspected it was his baby and it later turned out to be true.  She told guy no.1 about the paternity of her child, and to her surprise, he wasn’t moved by this and ended up helping anonymous through her pregnancy.

Ask A Man 12 June '26: " I know I pursued her but now I'm over her.'

Ask A Man 10 June '26: 'Is she gone because the money is gone?'

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and says things took off quickly became serious between her and her partner.  Anonymous says in the beginning of the relationship she told her partner that she likes living life on the fast lane and her partner said she’s fine with that, quote, “she can stand the rain”. Ever since she lost her job, anonymous says,  her partner starting getting a bit cold and she wasn’t the same. There has now been situations where her partner would go out without really giving her much detail about her whereabouts and she finds this suspicious…

Ask A Man 09 June '26: 'Will my man ever grow up?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 years now and says she was taking a break from relationships when she met him.  As a single mother, she was attracted to the guy because he was a single father living with his children. The relationship was going well and they became a blended family and moved in together with her children, while his children moved to live with their mother.  Her partner lost his job and they downscaled so her children moved back to the house that anonymous and her ex husband used to live in.  He was a bit of a party animal and would come back home in the early hours of the morning, she called him out on this and he stopped that behaviour.  They then had a conflict of sorts and he ended up sleeping over the mother of his children’s house...

Ask A Man 8 June '26: 'Will he be able to take care of our family in future?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about thirteen years and they have one child together.  Her partner has never really worked throughout their relationship and hasn’t had enough income to be financially supportive in their relationship.  He recently got inheritance and now wants to marry anonymous but she’s not sure she wants to get married to a man who she doesn’t believe will make something of his life.  He also wants them to move in to his family home, which is something she’s not keen to do.