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Ask a Man 13 Feb '25: 'My partner is offering money for me to money to stay with him.'

Anonymous says she’s been dating a guy for about 2 months, after meeting him in November last year. Anonymous says she started dating this guy a while after her previous relationship with her ex who says is a narcissist.  Anonymous says weeks into the relationship he started showing signs of narcissism. She says his behaviour is reminding her of her ex and it’s turning her off. Anonymous says she’s slowly fazed him out of her life and he’s been trying to get back in.  Anonymous says he has now resorted to saying that it’s ok if they don’t to date, they can just have sexual relationship and he’ll pay her for this.  Anonymous says she still kind of likes him and finds herself confused by this offer and the meaning of their relationship.

Ask A Man 12 Feb '25: 'My partner has made me responsible for his kids.'

Anonymous says she has two kids from different fathers and says she’s now in a new relationship with a new guy who she says loves her and her kids.  Anonymous says things have been going well in their relationship until the mother of her partner’s two children found out about their relationship and has now sent those two children to come live with anonymous and her partner.  Anonymous says she loves her partner’s kids but says she’s struggling with now raising 4 children, and says she bares most of the burden of taking care of the 4 children.  Anonymous doesn’t know how to deal with this.

Ask a Man 11 Feb '25: 'Am I emotionally disconnected?'

Anonymous says she was married for 5 years and divorced her husband in 2023. Anonymous says later that year she got into a long distance situationship with a new guy.  Anonymous says communication is a bit of a problem in their relationship, she says he tends to disappear for days without saying anything and she leaves things that way but he has complained that he feels like her behaviour indicates that she is not that into him.  Anonymous is wondering if she really is disconnected in the relationship, she says every other aspect of the relationship is good, and doesn’t know what to do.

Ask A Man 10 Feb '25: 'Tired of being disrespected by my partner's family.'

Anonymous says she got married to her partner in 2020 after a year of being together and just before they had their first child.  Anonymous says at the beginning of their marriage she noticed that he wasn’t being fully transparent about his finances and she confronted him about that and that’s when he came clean and revealed details of the money he’s spending on his mom.  Anonymous says as time went by, her husband’s mother started calling anonymous, telling her that since she came into her son’s life, he doesn’t support her financially like he used to before he got married to anonymous.  Anonymous says her partner’s mother and other family members don’t have boundaries and are often rude when speaking to anonymous. Anonymous says she’s spoken to her partner about this but he doesn’t seem to be confronting his family about their behaviour.

Ask A Man 07 Feb '25: 'My partner is angry at me for speaking to my ex.'

Anonymous says she met an amazing guy last year in July, after breaking up with a man who she says was toxic and a serial cheater.  Anonymous says the relationship with the new guy has been going well but recently she unblocked her toxic ex and he ended up calling her and they spoke on the phone.  The issue now is that anonymous’ current partner found out about this call and is now angry at anonymous for unblocking her ex and not telling her current partner about this call.  Anonymous says she had told her partner about her ex and how horrible he was to her. Anonymous says her partner is now not speaking to her and won’t hear her out, she doesn’t know what to do.

Ask a Man 06 Feb '25: 'Is my partner over me?'

Anonymous says she started dating her partner in 2009 while she was in matric. She says the relationship went well and they eventually got married and now have 3 kids together.  Anonymous says in 2022 while she was pregnant with their third child she found out that her husband had impregnated someone else. Anonymous says this caused a rift in their relationship and she ended up in a situation where she was fighting to get him back and he was refusing.  Anonymous says her husband then lost his job and she took him back in her life an supported him, even when she lost her job, she used the little that she had to help him.  Anonymous says he then found a job, but left her and moved back home to his family’s home, where the lady he impregnated lives.  Anonymous says he’s supporting the children financially but their relationship is strained and she doesn’t know what to do.

Ask A Man 05 Feb '25: 'He's moved on, but I'm struggling to do the same.'

Anonymous says she got married to her high school sweetheart in 2017 and says their relationship was generally great. Anonymous says they had a child in 2019, but things got weird in 2023 when his behaviour changed and he was always irritable and seemed to be annoyed by her. Anonymous says the communication in their relationship also faded.  Anonymous says she eventually caught him cheating on her and after she confronted him about it, he said nothing and just moved out of their home. Anonymous says he’s still with the lady he cheated on her with and has even introduced that lady to his family.  Anonymous says she’s struggling to move on.

Ask A Man 04 Feb '25: 'I'm cheating on my cheating wife.'

Anonymous says he got married to his wife back in 2017 and shortly after they got married she started having an affair with her ex. Anonymous says he confronted her about this and she asked him for forgiveness, which he gave her but told her that something was broken between and that there would be consequences of her actions.  Anonymous says 5 years after his wife cheated on him, he ran into his high school sweetheart and he started having an affair with her. Anonymous’ wife now knows that he’s having an affair with his ex and he feels like he’s more in love with his ex than he is with his wife.  Anonymous says he never got over the cheating and doesn’t know how to move forward from here.

Ask a Man 03 Feb '25: 'We're married but our families don't know.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 10 years and they have a child together. When she called in last year she shared how she felt like her partner was not contributing financially in their household.  Anonymous says that situation has persisted and another thing is that they are in a civil marriage but their families are not aware of this situation.  Anonymous says he keeps coming up with financial excuses about why they can’t have an African traditional marriage, but she just doesn’t understand this. Anonymous is worried she might have made a mistake by marrying him.

Ask a Man 31 Jan '25: 'Are we moving too fast?'

Anonymous says she met a guy during our singles week here on Break Away last December. Anonymous says after he slides into her DMs things went well and she says he even involved her in many aspects of his life.  Anonymous says when the guy was looking for a new apartment, he roped her in and asked her to pick the apartment as she would also live there with him.  Anonymous says he’s said “I love you” to her and wants to introduce her to his family. Anonymous is worried that things are moving too fast between them.

Ask a Man 30 Jan '25: 'I'm living with my ex and it's miserable.

Anonymous says he was with his ex for a while and they even ended up buying a house together. Anonymous says during the course of the relationship, his partner cheated on him several times and he kept forgiving her until he couldn’t.  Anonymous says they ended up breaking up, however, they still live in the house together and the mood in the house is very tense and they are struggling to live with each other. Anonymous says selling the house is hard because of the current market conditions in their area. Anonymous feels stuck in this situation and doesn’t know what to do.

Ask a Man 29 Jan '25: 'Should I get back with my baby making ex?'

Anonymous says she met a guy in 2021 and says things were generally good in their relationship to point where they started trying for a baby.  Anonymous says the guy had fertility issues but eventually got medication and she fell pregnant but later miscarried.  Anonymous says she found out the guy was cheating on her and he even impregnated another woman which led to anonymous breaking up with him.  Anonymous says time went by and the guy reached out to her wanting to get back together, however, he now has a second baby with another woman. Anonymous is not sure if she should get back together with him, especially because he now has two children. 

Ask a Man 28 Jan '25: 'The one that got away?'

Anonymous says after going through a break-up in 2023, she went through a lot of anxiety and had to do a lot healing from that break-up. Anonymous says the issue now is a friend she’s known for most of her life that she has always sort of had feelings for but they never got together.  Anonymous says after her break-up they became closer with this guy and he eventually confessed his feelings for anonymous but she pushed him away because she wasn’t emotionally ready.  Fast forward to now, anonymous reached out to the guy and they linked up just last night but after anonymous asked, he revealed that he’s now in a relationship with someone else whom he really loves.

Ask a Man 27 Jan '25: 'I'm not ready to tell my parents about him.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for almost 6 years and their relationship has been good. Anonymous says her partner has introduced her to his parents but she hasn’t introduced him to her parents.  Anonymous says this has caused a rift in their relationship because it limits the kind of activities they can do as a couple and that limits their relationship in general.  Anonymous says her partner has brought this up and wants anonymous to tell her parents about him. She’s not sure about that as her parents are very strict and she would rather complete varsity first, before telling them.