Ask A Man 10 Nov '26: 'My married boyfriend is denying our child'

Anonymous has been with a married man for about three years now and said to anonymous that he’s interested in being in a polygamous relationship.  She says his family knew about their relationship but his wife didn’t know they were together. She fell pregnant with his child and while him and his family were happy about this initially, there are now questions being raised about the paternity of the child and his family is harassing her and they’ve turned their back on her.  He hasn’t been defending her in this situation and as she calls us today, he hasn’t reached out to her in about two weeks. 

Ask A Man 09 Nov '26: 'I love our children despite questions about their paternity.'

Anonymous dated a lady for many years and says he took her from someone else.  The paternity of their first child is still in question as she was having an affair when she was pregnant, they managed to work through this situation and continued with their relationship. They also had a second child.  However, things never really got back to normal between them and he ended up breaking up with the mother of his, apparent, children. 

Ask A Man 06 Nov '26: 'Reformed and ready to date'

Anonymous is a recently divorced man and says he had a very good woman who he treated badly and his behaviour eventually led to their breakup. Three years after breaking up with his wife, he feels like he’s now a changed man is ready to find someone to be his life partner…

Ask A Man 05 Nov '26: Struggling to co-parent with my ex'

Anonymous is currently struggling to co-parent her child with her ex-partner. She says he was controlling in their relationship and is doing the same in their co-parenting situation. There was an incident earlier in the year that resulted in her ex physically assaulting her and she had him arrested.  He was released from jail after a week, but their co-parenting relationship has been sour and toxic since then. 

Ask A Man 03 Nov '26: " I don't want to be a step mom'

Anonymous and her husband have been together for twelve years, married for six of those years and they have three children together.  She found out about four years ago that her husband had a fling with another woman, which was confirmed, but her and her husband managed to work through the situation.  The lady her husband had an affair with has now called and told her husband that she has a three year-old child and it’s his. Her husband told her about this and she doesn’t know how to react because she doesn’t want to be a stepmother.  The paternity of the child is also in question, as some other people have claimed the child belongs to someone else. 

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Ask A Man 30 Oct '26: 'We have different fighting styles'

Anonymous has been with her partner for 5 years now, they have a 15 year age gap, he’s in his mid-forties and she’s in her early thirties.  She says communication and conflict resolution is the biggest problem they have in their relationship as they struggle to agree on fighting styles and she feels like he doesn’t give her space to voice her concerns.  She’s worried that they’ll never be able to find a middle ground when it comes to communication. 

Ask A Man 29 Oct '26: 'We agreed not to have children, but she fell pregnant'

Anonymous has been with his partner for about three years and says she was such a great partner in the beginning and she showered him with so much love.  She came into their relationship with one child and they have one child together. He says things started changing in their relationship when they had their child as he thought she was preventing and she knew that he is a breadwinner back home and can’t afford to have another child in their home…

Ask A Man 28 Oct '26: 'My husband struggles to deal with his emotions'

Anonymous and her fiancé have been together for about a decade and have two kids together.  She says he’s a good man, ambitious, knows what he wants and goes for it. And says she’s never had to deal with infidelity in her relationship.  She’s the kinda person who is friends with her exes but when he realised this, he asked her to cut ties with them and she did but he’d always bring it up even months later. She also had male friends but he wasn’t happy with that as well and she cut ties with those friends.  In a recent situation, he became upset after seeing chats between her and her manager which he found to be a little too personal. 

Ask A Man 27 Oct '26: 'My husband changed after moved back home.'

Anonymous and her husband have been together for ten years and they have three children together.  For about half of their marriage she lived in another town so they were in a bit of a long distance relationship initially, which she thinks put her in a bubble and she wasn’t aware of certain things about her relationship and her partner.  Things started to change when they started living together with her husband, he became a different character towards her. The behaviour became worse after her first pregnancy…

Ask A Man 26 Oct '26: 'Why won't she get intimate with me?'

Anonymous was with his wife for 8 years, and in the last few years of the marriage he fell ill which affected him and he also lost a lot of weight. After all of this, she broke up with him saying that he used to abuse her and had put her through a lot…

AskA Man 23 Oct '26: 'Are these guys playing me?'

Anonymous had a casual fling with guy no.1 who she met at work, but things never got serious, especially because guy no.1 is married.  They continued with their friendship and one night he went out clubbing with guy no.1 and his friends. She then clicked with guy no.2 who is guy no.1’s friend. They ended up hooking up that night and have since started dating.  She asked guy no.2 that they don’t reveal their relationship to guy no.1, but this made guy no.2 suspicious that there’s something going between anonymous and guy no.1. 

Ask A Man 22 Oct '26: 'Has my ex put a spell on me?'

Anonymous has been in a relationship with his partner for about 10 years now and says the relationship was great until she started changing: He heard that she was spreading rumours about him with her colleagues which hurt him and brought tension to their relationship.  At some point, after he found a new job, she revealed to him that she was pregnant which she found weird because they were intimate with each other at the time…

Ask A Man 21 Oct '26: 'I Think My Husband Is Dating Men'

Anonymous is married with three children, however, her husband used to be very abusive towards her but they did deal with it through counselling and it has been resolved for the most part, even though he did get abusive towards her earlier this year.  She also suspects that her husband is secretly dating men as she found suspicious chats on his phone 4 years ago with his friend that she was aware dated men….

Ask A Man 20 Oct '26: 'He's not working on fixing his sexual function issues.'

Anonymous broke up with the father of her child after experiencing a lot of infidelity in the relationship.  She then got back together with her ex and says their relationship is generally great but he is frustrating her sexually, as he doesn’t last very long during sexual intercourse.  They’ve spoken about this and he’s told her that he’ll work on it but she feels like he’s not doing much to fix the situation. She does add that he did have a medical condition which might have affected he’s sexual function. She doesn’t know what to do. 

Ask A Man 19 Oct '26: 'Should I Stay with Him Despite His Married Status'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 years now and they are currently in a long distance relationship because she lost her job and moved back home.  She then found out earlier this year that he’s actually married to someone else, who he paid lobola for a while back.  She wants to leave him but he’s been begging her to stay in their relationship. He’s been diagnosed with stress and a mild stroke, which he claims is as a result of her wanting to end things with him.  She adds that he’s been a great partner to her and their relationship has been great despite the fact that he’s married to someone else.  She doesn’t know what to do. 

Ask A Man 15 Oct '26: 'He Lobola'd All Three Of Us'

Anonymous met her current partner about two years ago while they were both in relationships with other people, so they decided not to date each other at the time.  Months later they were both single and decided to date. Things went well for a few months but their relationship regressed and they broke up.  They kept in contact and when she found herself needing a place to stay due to challenges with her dad’s side of the family, he asked that she move in with him and she did.  She fell pregnant two months after moving in with him, which she thought was fine because they had discussed the possibility of having children. But he revealed to her that he has someone that he’s made relationship promises too and now doesn’t know what to do…

Ask A Man 14 Oct '26: 'Why is he not prioritising our wedding celebration?'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for several years, live together and have two children.  Her partner saved money over do about 10 years and used some of that money to secure a property for their family. She was a bit taken aback by this as she thought he’d use the money to complete their lobola/marriage process.  He still has money saved but he’s thinking of getting a car, and she now finds herself wondering if he’ll ever be able to prioritise completing their marriage process

Ask A Man 13 Oct '26: 'Should get back with my cheating ex?'

Anonymous was in a relationship with a lady for about 7 years, and he was also supporting her three children during this period.  The lady cheated on him a few times with her ex, who’s the father of her last born child…

Ask A Man 12 Oct '26: 'Heartbreak has broken my life.'

Anonymous was in a four year relationship with her now ex partner.  She has three children and he doesn’t have any, which is something that affected their relationship as she felt like she was constantly needing to choose between her partner and her children. As a result of this conflict in their relationship they broke up, and that break up has affected severely affected and she’s been struggling to even run and focus on her business, which led to her losing the business.  She doesn’t know how to go about moving on from the heartbreak of losing that relationship.