Ask A Man 14 Oct '26: 'Why is he not prioritising our wedding celebration?'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for several years, live together and have two children.  Her partner saved money over do about 10 years and used some of that money to secure a property for their family. She was a bit taken aback by this as she thought he’d use the money to complete their lobola/marriage process.  He still has money saved but he’s thinking of getting a car, and she now finds herself wondering if he’ll ever be able to prioritise completing their marriage process

Ask A Man 13 Oct '26: 'Should get back with my cheating ex?'

Anonymous was in a relationship with a lady for about 7 years, and he was also supporting her three children during this period.  The lady cheated on him a few times with her ex, who’s the father of her last born child…

Ask A Man 12 Oct '26: 'Heartbreak has broken my life.'

Anonymous was in a four year relationship with her now ex partner.  She has three children and he doesn’t have any, which is something that affected their relationship as she felt like she was constantly needing to choose between her partner and her children. As a result of this conflict in their relationship they broke up, and that break up has affected severely affected and she’s been struggling to even run and focus on her business, which led to her losing the business.  She doesn’t know how to go about moving on from the heartbreak of losing that relationship. 

Ask A Man 09 Oct '26: 'Block her and we're back on.'

Anonymous started dating a guy in February this year and says he was amazing to her and she felt like he was a Godsend.  Months into the relationship she found a text exchange on his phone with another woman and they were basically saying how much they miss each other. She confronted him about this but they resolved it as he said nothing beyond the texts had happened between and him and this other woman.  Last month she got suspicious that he had been with another woman, there was evidence to support this but he denied having been with another woman, she got upset and broke things off with him.  He has been apologising since then…

Ask A Man 08 Oct '26: 'Is she remorseful about her infidelity?'

Anonymous met his wife about six years before, during Covid lockdown. Once restrictions eased they met up physically and got married a year later and soon after had their first child together.  A while ago he went away to visit his family, but upon his return he found out that his wife didn’t sleep at home on the night he was away, she explained that she slept over at friends and they moved on from this.  Fast forward to today, he just found out that she was in fact sleeping with another man on that night. 

Ask A Man 07 Oct '26: 'She says I can't communicate.'

Anonymous has been with his partner for about three years and says their relationship wasn’t perfect but they got through the challenges, and even started talking marriage.  Last week she called him fighting about something and he decided to hold back in that argument but she took it as him being avoidant, and said she was annoyed by the behaviour as she feels like he doesn’t know how to deal with confrontation.  Anonymous says the biggest challenge in their relationship seems to be communication as she feels like he’s often not available when she calls. 

Ask A Man 06 Oct '26: 'Our financial downfall has broken our relationship.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for many years and their relationship was really amazing for most of those years.  She used to be financially well-off until she battled with cancer and they lost a lot of their money and had to downgrade their life.  Their financial situation has affected their life negatively.

Ask A Man 05 Oct '26: 'I know I'm a side but don't treat me like I'm nothing'

Anonymous is in a side relationship with a guy that’s in a relationship with a partner that he lives with.  Everything has been going well between the two of them until recently when both him and his partner were on leave and spending more time together. She says during this period he was avoiding her and barely speaking to her.  She understands that she’s a side but feels like he can’t just ignore her whenever it’s inconvenient for him.

Ask A Man 02 Oct '26: 'Am I asking for too much or is this just basics?'

Anonymous has been with his partner for two years now and he’s not sure if their relationship is going in the right direction.  They started dating a week after meeting each other, and anonymous feels like they might’ve rushed into a relationship without really getting to know and understand each other well.  One of the issues is that they appear to have differing communication styles which is creating conflict in their relationship. 

Ask A Man 1 Oct '26: 'She had a baby with a side but wants to build with me.'

Anonymous was in a relationship with his ex partner for about three years. After she fell pregnant he was happy and supported her through the pregnancy but a month after the child was born she confessed to him that she thinks the baby is not his as she had a one night stand while she was away on a work trip.  DNA tests were done and proved that he’s not the father….

Ask A Man 30 Sep '26: 'Is my husband turned off because of my pregnancy?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for 8 years and they got married 5 years ago.  She’s currently pregnant with their second child and her partner is refusing to get sexually intimate with her. She says it’s been about 5 months and despite her many advances, he’s not interested at all.  She’s wondering if he’s getting it outside because she once told him he can’t have sex with her if he’s cheating because it’s going to affect her and their unborn child.

Ask A Man 29 Sep '26: 'I don't want to be a side, but I'm falling for him.'

Anonymous met a guy who she immediately hit things off with and started having a relationship with him from the onset, and they’ve been together for about 6 months. However, a few months into the relationship she realised that he’s actually in a serious relationship with someone who he has children with.  She wants to exit this situation but she finds herself falling “deeply” for him. 

Ask A Man 28 Sep '26: 'Did my infidelity ruin us for good?'

Anonymous met his current partner about 8 years ago, when he was still in varsity, and they’ve been together ever since.  He still had flings with other ladies at the beginning of their relationship but stopped that behaviour after they had their first child.  He eventually went back to his old ways of having affairs with other women, and this time his partner found out after seeing texts on his phone, and this created a rift in their relationship and his partner still hasn’t recovered.  There’s a lot of tension between them and anonymous says he suspects that she’s now having an affair with her colleague

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Ask A Man 22 Sep '26: 'She was never into you.'

Anonymous met a lady last year and says everything was fine between them until she found a job in another province, a couple of months into their relationship.  Her new job required her to have a car and he offered to finance a car on her behalf, something she refused but eventually agreed to it, however he ended up not getting the car as she was acting suspicious.  Their relationship started fading away after all of this, and they haven’t really interacted since April. He now misses her and wonders if he should rekindle things with her. 

Ask A Man 21 Sep '26: 'Why did she move on so quickly?'

Anonymous says when he met lady no.1 she was married, they dated despite this fact and she actually fell pregnant early in their relationship and anonymous says it’s his kid.  Things got sour between him and lady no.1 after she claimed to be moving to another country for work.  He then met lady no.2, who he initially didn’t tell about his child with the ex but has now confessed to that….

Ask A Man: GBV Roundtable

This morning, Ask a Man sounds a little different. We usually turn to our panel for honest conversations about love, relationships and the questions that sometimes leave us confused. But with gender-based violence gripping the nation, this is not a moment for business as usual. We call on you the Ask a Man community, we want to have a necessary and uncomfortable conversation; not to speak on behalf of women, or alienate men, but to examine what we can all do to bring an end to gender-based violence. What attitudes and behaviours are we allowing to continue in our homes, friendships and communities? How do men hold one another accountable before harmful behaviour escalates into violence? And how do we raise boys who understand consent, respect and equality? Today, the men of Ask a Man move from giving relationship advice to confronting a national crisis that demands honesty, accountability and action from all of us.

Ask A Man 17 Sep '26: 'I Love her but she's busy with other people'

Ask A Man 16 Sep '26: 'Am I putting too much financial pressure on him?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for over a year now. They both had jobs when they met but she got a different job in another region and had to move. He quit from his job about since months after she moved and this didn’t really affect their relationship. However, she’s now back in the same area as him and it’s really highlighting the financial gap between them. A part of her blames him for not having a plan before leaving his other job and she now feels like he’s not thing hard enough. The financial strain has really impacted her but she doesn’t know how to deal with this without pressuring him.

Ask A Man 15 Sep '26: 'What went wrong after I moved away?'

Anonymous has been in a relationship with his partner for about two years now. They had a child a few months into their relationship, however, he lost his job at around the same time and had to move to another province for a new job.  He says things soured in their relationship after he moved and she hasn’t been the same since. He feels like he’s forcing things, and he’s the only one making an effort. When he brings up how he feels to her, she tends to blame him for moving to another region. He also says they don’t get intimate anymore in their relationship, and that’s also affecting him.