Ask A Man 01 Sept '26: 'We finally made things official but it's not going well.'

Anonymous met a guy back in 2024 while she was going through a divorce and they had a casual relationship which remained non-sexual until after her divorce was finalised.  They continued with their friends with benefits situation until they both realised they had caught feelings and wanted something more serious with each other.  They are now in a committed relationship, however, she feels like he’s not a good communicator, which is also a trigger for her because of an incident that happened in her past, that has left her needed constant communication. 

Ask a Man 28 August '26: 'The father of my child says I'm too much'

Anonymous recently had a baby with her partner of four years and they’ve now broken up after she felt like he wasn’t taking care of her after giving birth to their child.  He has suggested that they continue to live with each other and raise the child together but she’s confused by that offer and doesn’t know what to do.  She adds that she doesn’t want to be a single parent.

Ask A Man 27 Aug '26: 'My partner's father is a bad influence.'

Anonymous met a guy in October 2021, they dated for 19 days before they got engaged.  Just as the lobola proceedings were about to begin she fell pregnant so they put a pause on their marriage.  The guy started cheating on her months into the relationship and says the behaviour also coincided with him reconnecting with his long-lost father who seemed to encourage his drinking and infidelity.  They managed to work through this but he is now having an affair with another lady…

Ask A Man 26 Aug '26: 'Should I accept lobola in Rands or Dollars?'

Anonymous is asking whether she should accept lobola in rands or in dollars… She started dating guy no.1 two years after the end of her 25 year marriage. Things were going well with guy no.1 and they had solid future plans until she realised that he was cheating on her and things were not going well.  She recently met guy no.2 online and he lives overseas. She says things are going well in that 6 month relationship and he even wants to marry her with his Dollars.  However, guy no.1 wants to get serious with her and also wants to marry anonymous with his Rands.

Ask A Man 25 Aug '26

Anonymous is calling on behalf of her friend, who has been in a toxic relationship for many years now and has children with her partner.  This has been going on for many years and as friends they’ve been trying to support her but it’s become a lot and the children are also voicing how the abuse in the house has become too much.  Her parter has expressed that she really would love to leave this relationship but doesn’t know how to go about doing that.

Ask A Man 24 Aug '26: 'Has really changed from her cheating ways?'

Anonymous and his partner started dating in 2018 and broke up in 2022. They then got back together in 2023 and have been together ever since.  He recently found out that she had been having an affair with another man, after the same men told him and shared explicit pictures and videos as evidence of the affair.  He confronted her about it, she apologised and said that she was done with the guy and was willing to tell anonymous anything he wants to know about the affair, which allowed them to move forward with their relationship.  However, anonymous is struggling to move forward as he reflects on the extent of this betrayal…

Ask A Man 21 Aug '26: My current partner using my previous partner's against me'

Anonymous, who has been with her current partner for about six years, says she always knew their relationship wouldn’t end in marriage.  She’s a writer and has written books about her past abusive relationships, which her partner has read. However, she says that whenever they argue, he brings up her previous partners, claiming he understands why they treated her that way.

Ask A Man 20 Aug '26: 'Should I just accept that she's over our relationship?'

Anonymous broke with his girlfriend about two weeks ago, after going through a tough season in their three-year relationship.  He says they were experiencing a lot of stress in their relationship, she I. particular is currently studying so that was putting a lot of pressure on her.  Their sex life started taking a dip and this caused a major rift in their relationship, further pushing them away from each other…

Ask A Man 19 Aug '26: 'My new partner is short tempered & moody'

Anonymous is in her early forties and has 4 children, including one who’s living with cerebral palsy. She’s divorced and tried dating but found out that the guy was cheating on her so she ended it.  Fast forward to 26 May 2026, she met a guy  who is almost 10 year younger than her, they hit it off and she says he’s been an amazing partner towards her, very romantic and caring.  Her problem with him is that he’s short tempered and can very moody at times….

Ask A Man 18 Aug '26: 'My insecurities led to our relationship turning toxic'

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2022 and says things were great between them for the first two years but changed in 2024 after her partner’s father past away.  She says she started feeling insecure after he cut-off his dreadlocks and that caused a lot of turmoil between them, which eventually led to their relationship becoming toxic.  They broke up in May of this year, but continued to be friends and have a sexual relationship

Ask A Man 17 Aug '26: 'Does he really want to be with me?'

Anonymous met a guy a few years ago in a taxi and they would talk to each other which led to him helping her in finding a learnership.  She works close his workplace and he would even drive her to work everyday, and they ended up having a sexual relationship, however, cut him off afterwards as she didn’t enjoy being with him.  After a couple of weeks of avoiding him, she contacted him again as she didn’t have money for transport and he would drive her...

Ask A Man 14 Aug '26: 'My partner doesn't want me in contact with the father of my child'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about three years. They were both married to other people before they started their relationship, she has one child from her marriage and he has three.  Her partner has a problem with the fact that she speaks to her ex-husband and father of her child, because he fears that she still has a romantic relationship with him. 

Ask A Man 13 Aug '26: '8 years later and we still live with our parents'

Anonymous has been with her boyfriend for about 8 years now and they have a child together.  She’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his mid-thirties. They stay in separate houses, both at their parent’s homes.  After her grandparents advised that they should be married and living together for the sake of their child, anonymous’ boyfriend broke things off with her because of this.

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Ask A Man 11 Aug '26: 'Why am I attached to my toxic ex?'

Anonymous is in her early thirties and she is in a relationship with a man who is twenty years older than her.  She went through her partner’s phone months ago and found out that he was cheating. After confronting him about this he said she wasn’t mentally well since losing her father late  last year and she needed to to deal with that.  Months later she found out he was cheating again, and again 

Ask a Man 07 Aug '26: 'My wife is sleeping around with multiple men.'

Anonymous and his wife are married with two children, however, he recently realised that his wife has been having sex with multiple men and he even thinks some it is transactional.  He discovered this on her phone and he finds himself confused by the whole situation. Anonymous says when he previously realised she was sleeping with someone else, he suggested they make their relationship and open relationship, however, he feels like she’s taken that too far.

Ask A Man 06 Aug '26: 'My partner thinks I'm sleeping with my sister.'

Anonymous’ younger half-sister recently moved to his house as she could no longer live at res.  However, his girlfriend has expressed that she’s uncomfortable with him living with his sister suspecting that he might have an affair with his sister.  They fought about this and are now not really on speaking terms. He’s offended by this and doesn’t understand why his partner is reacting this way. 

Ask A Man 05 Aug '26: 'My man's wife is stalking me.'

Anonymous has been dating a married man for a while now, and his wife found out about three years ago, despite this, they continued with their relationship.  Her issue now is that she feels like the man’s wife is now keeping tabs on her movements and stalking her.  Anonymous initially ended things with him after his wife found out but he came saying his wife was ok with the situation. However, it doesn’t appear that way now and she’s not sure what to do. 

Ask A Man 04 Aug '26: 'Should I keep my past in the past?'

Anonymous says she made a pact with herself that she would like to keep her past in her past but she recently ran into a guy from her past.  Things didn’t end well between them, but it wasn’t too bad, as they were in a casual relationship. They spoke for a bit and she enjoyed the moment so much that she now wonders if it’s worth rekindling. 

Ask A Man 03 Aug '26: 'I'm happy to be a side, but he never has time for me.'

Anonymous met a guy a few months ago while at a funeral, they hit it off and ended up engaging in a one night stand.  He revealed to her that he has a partner and they have two children, but they continued chatting anyway, although that faded because she became a little bored of him.  They eventually ran into each other on Tik Tok and started talking again which led to them rekindling their relationship.  They’ve since met up a couple of times but she says he never seems to have time for her, and while she enjoys their sexual relationship, she wants more from him.