Ask A Man 07 Oct '26: 'She says I can't communicate.'

Anonymous has been with his partner for about three years and says their relationship wasn’t perfect but they got through the challenges, and even started talking marriage.  Last week she called him fighting about something and he decided to hold back in that argument but she took it as him being avoidant, and said she was annoyed by the behaviour as she feels like he doesn’t know how to deal with confrontation.  Anonymous says the biggest challenge in their relationship seems to be communication as she feels like he’s often not available when she calls. 

Ask A Man 06 Oct '26: 'Our financial downfall has broken our relationship.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for many years and their relationship was really amazing for most of those years.  She used to be financially well-off until she battled with cancer and they lost a lot of their money and had to downgrade their life.  Their financial situation has affected their life negatively.

Ask A Man 05 Oct '26: 'I know I'm a side but don't treat me like I'm nothing'

Anonymous is in a side relationship with a guy that’s in a relationship with a partner that he lives with.  Everything has been going well between the two of them until recently when both him and his partner were on leave and spending more time together. She says during this period he was avoiding her and barely speaking to her.  She understands that she’s a side but feels like he can’t just ignore her whenever it’s inconvenient for him.

Ask A Man 02 Oct '26: 'Am I asking for too much or is this just basics?'

Anonymous has been with his partner for two years now and he’s not sure if their relationship is going in the right direction.  They started dating a week after meeting each other, and anonymous feels like they might’ve rushed into a relationship without really getting to know and understand each other well.  One of the issues is that they appear to have differing communication styles which is creating conflict in their relationship. 

Ask A Man 1 Oct '26: 'She had a baby with a side but wants to build with me.'

Anonymous was in a relationship with his ex partner for about three years. After she fell pregnant he was happy and supported her through the pregnancy but a month after the child was born she confessed to him that she thinks the baby is not his as she had a one night stand while she was away on a work trip.  DNA tests were done and proved that he’s not the father….

Ask A Man 30 Sep '26: 'Is my husband turned off because of my pregnancy?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for 8 years and they got married 5 years ago.  She’s currently pregnant with their second child and her partner is refusing to get sexually intimate with her. She says it’s been about 5 months and despite her many advances, he’s not interested at all.  She’s wondering if he’s getting it outside because she once told him he can’t have sex with her if he’s cheating because it’s going to affect her and their unborn child.

Ask A Man 29 Sep '26: 'I don't want to be a side, but I'm falling for him.'

Anonymous met a guy who she immediately hit things off with and started having a relationship with him from the onset, and they’ve been together for about 6 months. However, a few months into the relationship she realised that he’s actually in a serious relationship with someone who he has children with.  She wants to exit this situation but she finds herself falling “deeply” for him. 

Ask A Man 28 Sep '26: 'Did my infidelity ruin us for good?'

Anonymous met his current partner about 8 years ago, when he was still in varsity, and they’ve been together ever since.  He still had flings with other ladies at the beginning of their relationship but stopped that behaviour after they had their first child.  He eventually went back to his old ways of having affairs with other women, and this time his partner found out after seeing texts on his phone, and this created a rift in their relationship and his partner still hasn’t recovered.  There’s a lot of tension between them and anonymous says he suspects that she’s now having an affair with her colleague

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Ask A Man 22 Sep '26: 'She was never into you.'

Anonymous met a lady last year and says everything was fine between them until she found a job in another province, a couple of months into their relationship.  Her new job required her to have a car and he offered to finance a car on her behalf, something she refused but eventually agreed to it, however he ended up not getting the car as she was acting suspicious.  Their relationship started fading away after all of this, and they haven’t really interacted since April. He now misses her and wonders if he should rekindle things with her. 

Ask A Man 21 Sep '26: 'Why did she move on so quickly?'

Anonymous says when he met lady no.1 she was married, they dated despite this fact and she actually fell pregnant early in their relationship and anonymous says it’s his kid.  Things got sour between him and lady no.1 after she claimed to be moving to another country for work.  He then met lady no.2, who he initially didn’t tell about his child with the ex but has now confessed to that….

Ask A Man: GBV Roundtable

This morning, Ask a Man sounds a little different. We usually turn to our panel for honest conversations about love, relationships and the questions that sometimes leave us confused. But with gender-based violence gripping the nation, this is not a moment for business as usual. We call on you the Ask a Man community, we want to have a necessary and uncomfortable conversation; not to speak on behalf of women, or alienate men, but to examine what we can all do to bring an end to gender-based violence. What attitudes and behaviours are we allowing to continue in our homes, friendships and communities? How do men hold one another accountable before harmful behaviour escalates into violence? And how do we raise boys who understand consent, respect and equality? Today, the men of Ask a Man move from giving relationship advice to confronting a national crisis that demands honesty, accountability and action from all of us.

Ask A Man 17 Sep '26: 'I Love her but she's busy with other people'

Ask A Man 16 Sep '26: 'Am I putting too much financial pressure on him?'

Anonymous has been with her partner for over a year now. They both had jobs when they met but she got a different job in another region and had to move. He quit from his job about since months after she moved and this didn’t really affect their relationship. However, she’s now back in the same area as him and it’s really highlighting the financial gap between them. A part of her blames him for not having a plan before leaving his other job and she now feels like he’s not thing hard enough. The financial strain has really impacted her but she doesn’t know how to deal with this without pressuring him.

Ask A Man 15 Sep '26: 'What went wrong after I moved away?'

Anonymous has been in a relationship with his partner for about two years now. They had a child a few months into their relationship, however, he lost his job at around the same time and had to move to another province for a new job.  He says things soured in their relationship after he moved and she hasn’t been the same since. He feels like he’s forcing things, and he’s the only one making an effort. When he brings up how he feels to her, she tends to blame him for moving to another region. He also says they don’t get intimate anymore in their relationship, and that’s also affecting him.

Ask A Man 14 Sep '26: 'Scared of revealing my romantic relationship with my pastor.'

Anonymous is 36 dating a man who’s 63. She has a ten year-old child and he has three children, the oldest daughter is the same age as anonymous. She’ll be meeting her partner’s daughter, who’s her age mate, soon and is feeling uneasy about meeting her. She adds that he’s a pastor at his church and she’s worried about how the congregation will react. 

Ask A Man 11 Sep '26: 'I feel lonely in my relationship.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 6 years now, they have two children together and they are in a long distance relationship.  She feels like he’s a bad communicator, they can go days without him calling her and he seems to be ok with that. She adds that even when they do talk he never talks about himself or what he’s going through in his life.  She’s feeling lonely in her relationship and doesn’t know how to deal with that. 

Ask A Man 10 Sep '26: 'Over my toxic marriage, but struggling to leave.'

Anonymous says her marriage is toxic, she’s had enough of her husband’s antics and knows that she should end her marriage, but she’s struggling to actually leave.  She says they have the public picture of the perfect marriage and that’s something that’s keeping her in the marriage.  Another reason is because, despite knowing that he’ll never change, she continues to carry the hope that he’ll maybe change one day.  She’s also struggling with idea of being single, as she doesn’t know how she’d be able to do this life thing without a partner. 

Ask A Man 09 Sep '26: 'Broke up over threesomes?'

Anonymous met a guy back in 2023 and got into a relationship with him despite recognising that he’s a bit of player.  At some point she found out that he was cheating on her with multiple women, but continued with the relationship believing that they are meant to be with each other.  She fell pregnant and around this time found out that he was treating an STI that he didn’t tell her about it.  There’s  also a specific lady who is her man’s sugar mama…

Ask A Man 08 Sep '26: 'We struggle to talk about money'

Anonymous has been with her now husband shortly after matriculating. They got married a couple of years after meeting and they have two children together.  The problem in their relationship is finances. She says they don’t communicate properly when it comes to finances in their relationship and he only brings her in when he’s facing trouble financially. She adds that at some point in their relationship he seemed to have a problem with gambling.  Their relationship is now strained and they don’t even talk anymore. She’s taking care of their home and he only contributes every now and then.