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Ask a Man 02 May '25: 'Will we never heal from the infidelity in our relationship?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years, and her current relationship overlapped with her previous relationship.  Anonymous says early in their relationship her partner found out that she was still dating her ex partner. Anonymous says they fought about this and she finally broke up with her ex. Anonymous says their relationship continued but her partner also cheated on her, and said she did it because she struggled to get over the fact that anonymous had cheated.  Anonymous says her partner has struggled to get over the initial cheating and they keep fighting about it. Anonymous says her partner broke up with her yesterday and she’s not sure if she should fight for her. 

Ask a Man 30 April '25: 'My daughter is bewitching my current wife.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for just over a year now and they have a 14-year age gap between them.  Anonymous says they’ve been speaking about their future and it looks like they could get married but her partner already has 3 children from his previous 3 relationships and he doesn’t seem keen to have more children.  Anonymous says she wants to be with him and build a future with him, but feels like even if he were to have a child with her, he would be doing it reluctantly.

Ask a Man 29 April '25: 'My partner is not keen to have more children with me.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for just over a year now and they have a 14-year age gap between them.  Anonymous says they’ve been speaking about their future and it looks like they could get married but her partner already has 3 children from his previous 3 relationships and he doesn’t seem keen to have more children.  Anonymous says she wants to be with him and build a future with him, but feels like even if he were to have a child with her, he would be doing it reluctantly.

Ask a Man 25 April '25: 'Will my partner break up with his other girlfriend?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for about 3 years and says when they started dating he didn’t tell her that he was in a relationship with someone else. Anonymous says after she got suspicious, he confessed to her that he does have another partnerback home, where he comes from.  Anonymous says she’s known about the other girl for about a year now and says despite their relationship being great, she’s not comfortable with him having another partner.  Anonymous says he has said that he plans to leave the other woman, but it still hasn’t happened.

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Ask a Man 17 April '25: 'My partner's best friend wants to expose our affair.'

Anonymous says he’s been dating a lady, who’s married to someone else, for about 5 years now. Anonymous says when he told her about his dreams to open his own business, she volunteered to raise the funds for him for the business.  Anonymous says they got the funding but he didn’t want  to have the business registered in both their names as he was scared of what could happen if the lady’s husband found out about their affair. Anonymous says they decided to register the business under his name and this lady’s best friend’s name.  Anonymous says time went by and the lady is now looking to divorce her husband, the problem is now the lady’s best friend…

Ask a Man 16 April '25: 'My partner is back, but I've met someone else.'

Anonymous says after being single for two years, he met a guy in September last year, and two weeks into their relationship, the guy told him that he had a spiritual calling and would be going to initiation for about 6 months.  Anonymous says the guy wasn’t allowed to have visitors while at initiation but they kept in contact by calling each other. Anonymous says the guy was then not allowed to take calls and this affected their relationship, leaving anonymous feeling lonely.  Anonymous says during this time he met someone else, guy no.2,  and they instantly fell in love. Anonymous says he’s in a relationship with guy no.2.

Ask a Man 15 April ‘25: ‘Constant fights with my partner led me to cheat.’

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for about two years now. They never moved in together but would stay at each other’s places for extended periods. Anonymous says his partner got into the habit of leaving his place and staying at her own place every time they fight. Anonymous says during one of the times his partner moved out he started entertaining another lady who he says became a confidant to him, anonymous says he eventually slept wit this lady and when he didn’t continue the relationship with this lady, she shared screen shots of their chats with anonymous’ partner. Anonymous says his partner is obviously upset about the chats that she’s seen and they are currently fighting about this. Anonymous says he loves his partner and he’s not sure on how to go about repairing their relationship.

Ask a Man 14 April '25: 'My partner is financially irresponsible.'

Anonymous says she’s known her husband for 8 years and they’ve been married for 6 of those years. Anonymous says her relationship with her partner is toxic and says the biggest issue is finances.  Anonymous says she earns more than her partner and says he also doesn’t contribute much to their household finances. Anonymous says she feels like she has been financially and verbally abusive towards her partner, calling him useless for not taking care their family.  Anonymous says it’s not that he earns less, it’s that he doesn’t spend much money on their family, and has instead accumulated a lot of debt.  Anonymous says she feels like she needs to end the relationship but her heart won’t let go and she can’t financially afford to leave the relationship right now.

Ask a Man 11 April '25: 'My partner found nudes of my and I on my phone.'

Anonymous says her partner recently went through her phone and found nude pictures of her with her ex on her phone.  Anonymous says her partner was upset after finding the pictures, which were recently sent by her ex. Anonymous says her partner also saw a message where she suggested to her ex that they have a threesome.  Anonymous says they went to therapy to try and resolve this issue, however, in a recent incident, her partner tried to call her but he got upset when he couldn’t reach anonymous because he just imagined that anonymous was busy with the ex.  Anonymous says her partner has been deeply affected by this and seems to be pulling away from her. Anonymous says she’s serious about him and doesn’t know how they can move forward from this. 

Ask a Man 9 April '25: 'My partner has been great but i've just found out she's married.'

Anonymous says he has been dating his partner for about 3 years now and says she has been very supportive of him from the time they started dating as he had just graduated.  Anonymous says he got into the e-hailing business and when he decided to start driving his own car, she helped him get the car and they agreed that he would pay her back for the car and they would change the ownership of the car to his name later.  Anonymous says he has since got two more cars on his own but when he tried to change the ownership of the first car from his partner’s name to his own name, she was avoiding doing this, which led to him checking the details of the car, and that’s when he found out that the car is owned by his partner’s husband, and he had no idea that she was even married.  Anonymous is worried about the car situation but he’s also not comfortable with continuing the relationship with his partner knowing that she’s married.

Ask a Man 10 April '25: 'Obsessed with my toxic partner.'

Anonymous says he met a guy last year and they’ve been dating since then. Anonymous says everything was fine until the guy started acting strange.   Anonymous says they once had a conflict & as they were in middle of the fight his partner decided he was leaving, and some other guy came to pick up his partner and they left anonymous at his place.  Anonymous says he tracked his partner on his phone and noticed that his partner went to the other guy’s place. Anonymous also says he found pictures of his partner with that guy looking cozy on the beach.  Anonymous says they met up days later and he confronted his partner about this. Anonymous says his partner was ignoring him, focusing on his phone and this led to them getting into a physical fight.  Anonymous says his partner pressed assault charges against him and he ended up in jail for weeks, before his partner dropped the charges.  Anonymous says his partner reached out to him and they’ve rekindled their relationship. Anonymous says it seems his partner is still hooking up with other people, but despite this he is struggling to let him go. 

Ask a Man 08 April '25: 'He doesn't like when I bring up his cheating.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years but says they’ve had an issue with infidelity in their relationship since the very beginning. Anonymous says she’s always finding texts on his phone of him chatting with other girls and flirting with them. She says she’s confronted him about this several times, but it keeps happening.  Anonymous says in the middle of all of this he doesn’t want her to chat with other guys. Anonymous says there’s also a particular girl who he can’t seem to let go of.  Anonymous says he is now accusing her of bringing up the past every time she brings up what he did with those other girls.

Ask a Man 07 April '25: 'Caught between a scammer & a ghoster'

Anonymous says she met a guy no.1 in January and things quickly sparked between them, and the guy moved into her place soon after they started dating.  Anonymous says the guy lies a lot, for starters, he lied about his age, saying he’s in his early thirties but it turned out he’s actually in his early twenties. Anonymous says though he seemed to have a proper job she’s also realised that he might be scamming people on social media.  Anonymous says guy no.2 is someone she was with before guy no.1, she says he’s trying to get back into her life even though he had ghosted her when they dated previously. Anonymous says guy no.2 has seemingly changed and there could be a chance to rekindle things with him.

Ask a Man 04 April '25: 'Why is he still following his ex?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years, they live together, their families know about each other, and their relationship is moving in the marriage direction.  Anonymous says she recently had a dream that there is something funny happening in their relationship, after this, anonymous says she looked through his phone and found that he’s still following his ex on Tik Tok and has liked all 11 of her posts.  Anonymous says they already had a fight about him following his ex on social media and she thought this was resolved. Anonymous says she’s now confused on how to feel about this.

Ask a Man 03 April '25: 'I want to marry her but her family is a problem.'

Anonymous says he met his current partner 8 years ago, after being single for 3 years. Anonymous says they started dating soon after meeting.  Anonymous says his partner came into their relationship with two children and they have since had four more children together, she is currently pregnant with twins.  Anonymous says that the problem in their relationship seems to be his partner’s family as they tend to meddle into their relationship. Anonymous says currently he’s trying to get married to his partner but there are some wranglings regarding the lobola amount anonymous must pay…

Ask A Man 02 April '25: He's not ready to be a family man.'

Anonymous says she’s a mother of two and she broke up with the father of her children back in 2015. Anonymous says she met another guy shortly after this but the relationship failed because she didn’t want the guy to meet her kids as they were young.  Anonymous says she waited for her kids to grow before dating again and she’s now in a relationship with someone who she has introduced to her kids and they’ve been together for a while now, but anonymous says she feels like he’s closed off and doesn’t share his true feelings. Anonymous says she feels like he’s not emotionally mature enough to be a family man, as he also has a terrible relationship with his own family.  Anonymous says even though he’d like to have a child with her, she’s also realised that he’s lacking when it comes to having paternal instincts.