Ask A Man 08 Sep '26: 'We struggle to talk about money'

Anonymous has been with her now husband shortly after matriculating. They got married a couple of years after meeting and they have two children together.  The problem in their relationship is finances. She says they don’t communicate properly when it comes to finances in their relationship and he only brings her in when he’s facing trouble financially. She adds that at some point in their relationship he seemed to have a problem with gambling.  Their relationship is now strained and they don’t even talk anymore. She’s taking care of their home and he only contributes every now and then. 

Ask A Man 07 Sep '26: 'I hate my ex and it's holding me back.'

Anonymous was with her ex-partner of many years and they have a child together.  She ended things with him after realising that he was cheating on her with another lady who he impregnated. She’s struggling to let go of the resentment she feels for him and she feels it’s keeping her from moving forward. 

Ask A Man 04 Sep '26: 'Has she given up on us?'

Anonymous has been with his partner for about four years and says the first three years were easy going and the relationship was going well.  However, in the last year things have gone cold in their relationship, and he says they fight a lot more and she doesn’t give him much attention or share her thoughts and feelings with him.  As a result of the situation in their relationship, he started chatting to other girls for companionship. His partner found out about these chats and she now wants to end things with him.

Ask A Man 03 Sep '26: 'I'm tired of sponsoring her life.'

Anonymous met a lady over a year ago, they hit off, and started dating.  Months into the relationship he realised that she wasn’t really doing anything career wise, at which point he assisted her in finding a job but she said to him she wasn’t ready to work but would be good to go in 2026.  Since the start of 2026 she hasn’t really looked or shown any interested in finding a job which frustrates him because he has to shoulder the financial burden in the relationship. She’s mentioned to him that she’s not looking because she’s not well educated. However, he’s not happy with this situation. 

Ask A Man 02 Sep '26: 'My husband is playing happy families with his side and our children.'

Anonymous has been married to her husband for twelve years and they’ve been together for about twenty years.  They have two children together and her husband secretly fathered another child about five years ago with a woman he’s been with for about 8 years on the side.  She found out about the child three years ago and they were able to move forward with their relationship. She’s over it now, as her husband is “playing happy families” with their children and the other child and the other woman.

Ask A Man 01 Sept '26: 'We finally made things official but it's not going well.'

Anonymous met a guy back in 2024 while she was going through a divorce and they had a casual relationship which remained non-sexual until after her divorce was finalised.  They continued with their friends with benefits situation until they both realised they had caught feelings and wanted something more serious with each other.  They are now in a committed relationship, however, she feels like he’s not a good communicator, which is also a trigger for her because of an incident that happened in her past, that has left her needed constant communication. 

Ask a Man 28 August '26: 'The father of my child says I'm too much'

Anonymous recently had a baby with her partner of four years and they’ve now broken up after she felt like he wasn’t taking care of her after giving birth to their child.  He has suggested that they continue to live with each other and raise the child together but she’s confused by that offer and doesn’t know what to do.  She adds that she doesn’t want to be a single parent.

Ask A Man 27 Aug '26: 'My partner's father is a bad influence.'

Anonymous met a guy in October 2021, they dated for 19 days before they got engaged.  Just as the lobola proceedings were about to begin she fell pregnant so they put a pause on their marriage.  The guy started cheating on her months into the relationship and says the behaviour also coincided with him reconnecting with his long-lost father who seemed to encourage his drinking and infidelity.  They managed to work through this but he is now having an affair with another lady…

Ask A Man 26 Aug '26: 'Should I accept lobola in Rands or Dollars?'

Anonymous is asking whether she should accept lobola in rands or in dollars… She started dating guy no.1 two years after the end of her 25 year marriage. Things were going well with guy no.1 and they had solid future plans until she realised that he was cheating on her and things were not going well.  She recently met guy no.2 online and he lives overseas. She says things are going well in that 6 month relationship and he even wants to marry her with his Dollars.  However, guy no.1 wants to get serious with her and also wants to marry anonymous with his Rands.

Ask A Man 25 Aug '26

Anonymous is calling on behalf of her friend, who has been in a toxic relationship for many years now and has children with her partner.  This has been going on for many years and as friends they’ve been trying to support her but it’s become a lot and the children are also voicing how the abuse in the house has become too much.  Her parter has expressed that she really would love to leave this relationship but doesn’t know how to go about doing that.

Ask A Man 24 Aug '26: 'Has really changed from her cheating ways?'

Anonymous and his partner started dating in 2018 and broke up in 2022. They then got back together in 2023 and have been together ever since.  He recently found out that she had been having an affair with another man, after the same men told him and shared explicit pictures and videos as evidence of the affair.  He confronted her about it, she apologised and said that she was done with the guy and was willing to tell anonymous anything he wants to know about the affair, which allowed them to move forward with their relationship.  However, anonymous is struggling to move forward as he reflects on the extent of this betrayal…

Ask A Man 21 Aug '26: My current partner using my previous partner's against me'

Anonymous, who has been with her current partner for about six years, says she always knew their relationship wouldn’t end in marriage.  She’s a writer and has written books about her past abusive relationships, which her partner has read. However, she says that whenever they argue, he brings up her previous partners, claiming he understands why they treated her that way.

Ask A Man 20 Aug '26: 'Should I just accept that she's over our relationship?'

Anonymous broke with his girlfriend about two weeks ago, after going through a tough season in their three-year relationship.  He says they were experiencing a lot of stress in their relationship, she I. particular is currently studying so that was putting a lot of pressure on her.  Their sex life started taking a dip and this caused a major rift in their relationship, further pushing them away from each other…

Ask A Man 19 Aug '26: 'My new partner is short tempered & moody'

Anonymous is in her early forties and has 4 children, including one who’s living with cerebral palsy. She’s divorced and tried dating but found out that the guy was cheating on her so she ended it.  Fast forward to 26 May 2026, she met a guy  who is almost 10 year younger than her, they hit it off and she says he’s been an amazing partner towards her, very romantic and caring.  Her problem with him is that he’s short tempered and can very moody at times….

Ask A Man 18 Aug '26: 'My insecurities led to our relationship turning toxic'

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2022 and says things were great between them for the first two years but changed in 2024 after her partner’s father past away.  She says she started feeling insecure after he cut-off his dreadlocks and that caused a lot of turmoil between them, which eventually led to their relationship becoming toxic.  They broke up in May of this year, but continued to be friends and have a sexual relationship

Ask A Man 17 Aug '26: 'Does he really want to be with me?'

Anonymous met a guy a few years ago in a taxi and they would talk to each other which led to him helping her in finding a learnership.  She works close his workplace and he would even drive her to work everyday, and they ended up having a sexual relationship, however, cut him off afterwards as she didn’t enjoy being with him.  After a couple of weeks of avoiding him, she contacted him again as she didn’t have money for transport and he would drive her...

Ask A Man 14 Aug '26: 'My partner doesn't want me in contact with the father of my child'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about three years. They were both married to other people before they started their relationship, she has one child from her marriage and he has three.  Her partner has a problem with the fact that she speaks to her ex-husband and father of her child, because he fears that she still has a romantic relationship with him. 

Ask A Man 13 Aug '26: '8 years later and we still live with our parents'

Anonymous has been with her boyfriend for about 8 years now and they have a child together.  She’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his mid-thirties. They stay in separate houses, both at their parent’s homes.  After her grandparents advised that they should be married and living together for the sake of their child, anonymous’ boyfriend broke things off with her because of this.

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Ask A Man 11 Aug '26: 'Why am I attached to my toxic ex?'

Anonymous is in her early thirties and she is in a relationship with a man who is twenty years older than her.  She went through her partner’s phone months ago and found out that he was cheating. After confronting him about this he said she wasn’t mentally well since losing her father late  last year and she needed to to deal with that.  Months later she found out he was cheating again, and again