Ask A Man 04 Aug '26: 'Should I keep my past in the past?'

Anonymous says she made a pact with herself that she would like to keep her past in her past but she recently ran into a guy from her past.  Things didn’t end well between them, but it wasn’t too bad, as they were in a casual relationship. They spoke for a bit and she enjoyed the moment so much that she now wonders if it’s worth rekindling. 

Ask A Man 03 Aug '26: 'I'm happy to be a side, but he never has time for me.'

Anonymous met a guy a few months ago while at a funeral, they hit it off and ended up engaging in a one night stand.  He revealed to her that he has a partner and they have two children, but they continued chatting anyway, although that faded because she became a little bored of him.  They eventually ran into each other on Tik Tok and started talking again which led to them rekindling their relationship.  They’ve since met up a couple of times but she says he never seems to have time for her, and while she enjoys their sexual relationship, she wants more from him.

Ask A Man 31 July '26: 'Over his treatment of me'

Anonymous has been with her partner for 12 years and they’ve been married for 6 of those years. Their marriage happened as result of anonymous falling pregnant and they had one other child after getting married.  She’s found out a few times that he was cheating and when she addresses this and other issues in their relationship, he shuts her down and tells her that she should be more grateful of the things he has done for her. 

Ask A Man 30 July '26: 'Am I wrong for leaving him at his worst?'

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2020 and two years after being together she fell pregnant and they moved in together.  He’s always had a problem with over-drinking, and spends a lot of his time hanging out with his friends. This behaviour  has also affected his work life.  He’s also epileptic and has had a few seizure episodes. As a result she’s been advising him to slow down on the drinking but he never heeds her advice. 

Ask A Man 29 Jul '26: 'Can we work through our religious differences?'

Anonymous and his partner have been  together for 8 months.  They recognised early on in their relationship that they have differences in terms of their religious beliefs but continued with their relationship. She’s tried to follow his religion but it hasn’t really worked out and she’s told him that she sees God differently to how he sees God.  They are now in conflict over this and are not seeing eye to eye. He’s not sure if their relationship will survive but he loves her a lot. 

Ask A Man 28 July '26: 'I love him but we're struggling to agree on marriage & kids'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years.  They met during a tumultuous period in both their lives as he was going through a divorce when they met and months into their relationship she lost her mother.  This meant that there was a lot of trauma bonding early in their relationship, however, as they healed from their difficult situations, they started to get into a lot of conflicts because of their different outlooks on life including marriage, children and financial prospects. They’ve been separated for two months now, and she’s not sure if they should get back together. 

Ask A Man 27 July '26: 'Tired of the silence every time he faces a tough time.'

Anonymous started dating a guy early this year after he moved into her neighbourhood late last year. He’s generally a great partner when he’s around but he has a tendency to switch off and ghost her. When he’s back he showers her with gifts, and wants to act as if this are fine and back to normal.

Ask a Man 24 July '26: 'I'm happy being a side but he wants to make me the main.'

Anonymous was in an 8 year long relationship that ended less than two months ago as result of her now ex partner being abusive.  Shortly after breaking up her long term partner she reached out to another guy who had been pursuing her for over a year. They started casually dating as the guy was in a relationship with someone else.  She’s was ok with the fact that he was with someone else as that would keep their relationship casual.  The guy now wants to break up with his girlfriend so he can be with anonymous but she’s not interested in having anything serious currently as she’s still recovering from her previous relationship.  She’s not sure if she should break things off him as she also does have deeper feelings for the guy.

Ask A Man 23 July '26: 'Should I accept that my relationship is bad because I cheated?

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost 9 years and says while he was the perfect gentleman when they started dating, she cheated on him in the early stages of their relationship.  After that he was a changed man and was also cheating on her. At some point he got physically violent towards her after he incorrectly believed  that she had slept with his best friend. They broke up after this incident but got back together because she was pregnant with their child, who was born in 2022. He continued to be unfaithful and they’ve been in an on-and-off relationship since then as result of his cheating.

Ask a Man 22 July '26: 'I love my wife, but I love my side too.'

Anonymous has been with his wife for 8 years and they’ve been married for two of those years.  He has been in a relationship with another woman for the last three years. His wife once found out about the other woman, he left lady no.2 as a result but ended up getting back together with lady no.2 without his wife knowing.  His wife has once again caught on to his side relationship and has given him an ultimatum. He, however, loves both women and would like to pursue a polygamous relationship, but he’s note sure how to go about it. 

Ask A Man 21 July '26: 'I have no voice in our relationship.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years and says the most part their relationship has been great.  They struggle with conflict management in the relationship and she feels like he doesn’t really consider her feelings or her needs.  He also says she doesn’t take accountability for her actions, but she feels like it’s actually the other way around.  While she thinks he’s a nice guy, she’s not sure if he’s good at being a romantic partner. 

Ask A Man 20 July '26: 'Struggling with monogamy.'

Anonymous was caught cheating by his partner yesterday after she looked through his phone, while he was sleeping, and saw texts between him and a lady he cheated on her with, who is now pregnant with his child.  He says he was a womaniser for many years and he’s now in a committed relationship but is struggling to say no when ladies make advances towards him.  He knows this is a problem, and he wants to change but he’s struggling. 

Ask A Man 17 July '26: 'He has potential but comes with lots of emotional baggage.'

Anonymous is in her mid-twenties and is currently dating a man who’s ten years older than her.  They met online and got to know each other really well as they were chatting a lot. Through this he was able to share that his mother is not well, dealing with a metal health issue. She’s since met his sister who is also dealing with a mental health issue.  He did reveal to her that he once went through a depression when he went through a tough time in his business which he lost. Times are tough in his family and he’s struggling with this, which has affected their relationship. 

Ask A Man 16 July '26: 'My brother won't allow me to get married.'

Anonymous says her brother is the problem in her relationship. They don’t have parents and it’s just the two of them at home.  She has been with her partner for a while, they came into their relationship with children and she’s now pregnant with their first child.  Her partner wants to marry her but her brother is refusing, which is blocking the traditional processes they need to follow in order to get married.  This is now affecting her relationship with her partner, who’s not happy that they can’t be a family because of her brother. 

Ask A Man 15 July '26: 'My husband is a serial cheat'

Anonymous met her husband back in 2014 and he was living abroad, for his studies and work. He moved back home as a result of the COVID pandemic.  She realised that he had actually been with other people during his time away but they were able to move forward from this.  Over the last few years he’s been working at a local tertiary institution and she says he’s been caught cheating with students and other people at the school multiple times. 

Ask A Man 10 July '26: 'She was a virgin when we met and she's still not into intimacy.'

Ask A Man 14 July "Is it my girlfriend or bestfriend that is lying to me?"

Ask A Man 13 July "My partner disciplines my children and spoils his, is this fair?"

Ask A Man 09 July '26: 'Worried about her cheating and questioning my sexuality.'

Anonymous is bisexual and has been with his female partner for about 4 years now.  They had some tough times in their relationship due to anonymous needing to deal with his past traumas, but they got through this.  Recently she started behaving a bit differently, he got suspicious, went through her phone and found that she was chatting to other guys even telling them that she’s not very serious about anonymous.  He doesn’t know how to feel about this and there’s also the matter of his sexuality

Ask A Man 08 July '26: My partner requested a threesome with her best friend.'

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about 10 years and they have three children, two children together and one from his partner’s previous relationship.  They both cheated in their relationship but forgave each other and moved forward with their relationship.  Recently they came back from a party and his partner’s friend came home with them and slept over in their house, the children weren’t there… While he was sexually busy with his partner, she suggested that they invite her friend, who was sleeping in another room, to join them in their bedroom. Anonymous said no to this suggestion…