Ask A Man 21 July '26: 'I have no voice in our relationship.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years and says the most part their relationship has been great.  They struggle with conflict management in the relationship and she feels like he doesn’t really consider her feelings or her needs.  He also says she doesn’t take accountability for her actions, but she feels like it’s actually the other way around.  While she thinks he’s a nice guy, she’s not sure if he’s good at being a romantic partner. 

Ask A Man 20 July '26: 'Struggling with monogamy.'

Anonymous was caught cheating by his partner yesterday after she looked through his phone, while he was sleeping, and saw texts between him and a lady he cheated on her with, who is now pregnant with his child.  He says he was a womaniser for many years and he’s now in a committed relationship but is struggling to say no when ladies make advances towards him.  He knows this is a problem, and he wants to change but he’s struggling. 

Ask A Man 17 July '26: 'He has potential but comes with lots of emotional baggage.'

Anonymous is in her mid-twenties and is currently dating a man who’s ten years older than her.  They met online and got to know each other really well as they were chatting a lot. Through this he was able to share that his mother is not well, dealing with a metal health issue. She’s since met his sister who is also dealing with a mental health issue.  He did reveal to her that he once went through a depression when he went through a tough time in his business which he lost. Times are tough in his family and he’s struggling with this, which has affected their relationship. 

Ask A Man 16 July '26: 'My brother won't allow me to get married.'

Anonymous says her brother is the problem in her relationship. They don’t have parents and it’s just the two of them at home.  She has been with her partner for a while, they came into their relationship with children and she’s now pregnant with their first child.  Her partner wants to marry her but her brother is refusing, which is blocking the traditional processes they need to follow in order to get married.  This is now affecting her relationship with her partner, who’s not happy that they can’t be a family because of her brother. 

Ask A Man 15 July '26: 'My husband is a serial cheat'

Anonymous met her husband back in 2014 and he was living abroad, for his studies and work. He moved back home as a result of the COVID pandemic.  She realised that he had actually been with other people during his time away but they were able to move forward from this.  Over the last few years he’s been working at a local tertiary institution and she says he’s been caught cheating with students and other people at the school multiple times. 

Ask A Man 10 July '26: 'She was a virgin when we met and she's still not into intimacy.'

Ask A Man 14 July "Is it my girlfriend or bestfriend that is lying to me?"

Ask A Man 13 July "My partner disciplines my children and spoils his, is this fair?"

Ask A Man 09 July '26: 'Worried about her cheating and questioning my sexuality.'

Anonymous is bisexual and has been with his female partner for about 4 years now.  They had some tough times in their relationship due to anonymous needing to deal with his past traumas, but they got through this.  Recently she started behaving a bit differently, he got suspicious, went through her phone and found that she was chatting to other guys even telling them that she’s not very serious about anonymous.  He doesn’t know how to feel about this and there’s also the matter of his sexuality

Ask A Man 08 July '26: My partner requested a threesome with her best friend.'

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about 10 years and they have three children, two children together and one from his partner’s previous relationship.  They both cheated in their relationship but forgave each other and moved forward with their relationship.  Recently they came back from a party and his partner’s friend came home with them and slept over in their house, the children weren’t there… While he was sexually busy with his partner, she suggested that they invite her friend, who was sleeping in another room, to join them in their bedroom. Anonymous said no to this suggestion…

Ask A Man - 07 July '26: 'I supported her dreams but she's now drifting away.'

Anonymous has been with his partner since about 2013 and they are now around 30 years of age.  Her partner found a job in another country and this seems to have affected their communication. She doesn’t answer his calls and when they do eventually speak she tells him that she’s busy.  Their relationship is now broken down and he doesn’t know what to do. They also adopted her sister’s child and that relationship is now in limbo. 

Ask A Man 06 July '26: 'He impregnated someone else and now wants me back.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost two years and says he’s been a good partner to her for the most part.  Throughout their relationship he’s been talking a lot about having children, however, she wasn’t ready. He recently revealed to her that he’s impregnated another lady, they ended things as a result. However, the other lady miscarried and he is now back, telling anonymous he wants to get back together, the pregnancy was a mistake…

Ask A Man 03 July '26: 'Will I ever be more than a side?'

Anonymous is in her late thirties and has one child. She’s been dating a guy on and off for about 10 years now, however, the guy has a girlfriend who he has two children with.  She was with someone else when she met him and ended up dropping that guy for this one who has a partner.  She was a side for many years but eventually gave him an ultimatum telling him to leave his main girlfriend for her but he never left the main.  She broke up with him but four months later the guy came back saying he had left his other girlfriend.  They are now dating again, however…

Ask A Man 02 July '26: "A prophecy is ruining my marriage.'

Anonymous met his wife in 2005, and they later got married after having a child in 2010. After getting married they started attending the same church, which is his church. There’s an elderly lady on the worship team at their church who stated that there’s a prophecy that anonymous would need to leave his wife for this lady’s daughter.  This information was shared with anonymous’ wife, but it was told to her as though it’s something that’s actually happening….

Ask A Man 1 July '26: 'My wife disagrees with my African spirituality believes.'

Anonymous is the eldest son in his family and only has sisters, and he’s now also married.  Her wife has deep Christian beliefs and his mother is a sangoma, so his family tends to follow Traditional African religion.  His younger sister has taken ill and his uncle suggested they visit a sangoma in Mozambique who could help his sister.  He told his wife about his intention to support his family in taking his sister to this sangoma but she didn’t take this well and said anonymous is now inviting other spirits into their home. 

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Ask A Man 30 June '26: 'Fighting over groceries and his moods.'

Anonymous says when she met his partner he was clean and proper and was a great person towards her.  However, after a while of dating each other, they moved in together and this is when she realised certain aspects of his personality. She says he was always moody and wasn’t as fun as he used to be before.  As result of his behaviour, they agreed to continue with the relationship but live apart. He then moved out abruptly which took her by surprise.  She confronted him about his move and he told her that he moved because he no longer felt welcomed in her space, the talked through it and he has now moved back to their place…

Ask a Man 29 June '26: 'Tired of his lack of ambition'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 5 years, she’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his late twenties.  Her problem with him is that he doesn’t seem to want to work. He’s not interested in looking and he currently doesn’t work. He’s been this way since she’s been with him and when she asks him why he’s not working he has many excuses, including his spirituality.  She’s now broken up with him, however, he wants to get back together with her and she’s not sure if she should, because she does love him but worries about his lack of ambition.

Ask A Man 26 June '26: 'Is my neighbour/boyfriend into me?'

Anonymous met a guy who lives in her complex mid-last year, they hit it off and started dating.  Around September last year they had a miscommunication and things became a bit tense between them. They never really spoke about what happened between them and their relationship just fizzled out from there.  Fast forward to this year, she needed closure about why things ended, so she confronted the guy, and while she felt like he left her, he thought she broke things off. Right now she’s in a position where she’s wondering if he wants to be with her. 

Ask A Man 25 June '26: 'Temptations at work'

Anonymous got married in her late teens and has now been with her husband for 13 years.  Her marriage has been generally fine during this time and they have children with her husband.  She met a man from another country through work, who she was in charge of taking care off while he was in the country, and there’s a spark between them.  She hasn’t done anything with this man despite his advances and gifts, however, she does find herself feeling stimulated by him and this situation.  She’s wondering if this is infidelity and what she needs to do.