Ask A Man 28 July '26: 'I love him but we're struggling to agree on marriage & kids'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years.  They met during a tumultuous period in both their lives as he was going through a divorce when they met and months into their relationship she lost her mother.  This meant that there was a lot of trauma bonding early in their relationship, however, as they healed from their difficult situations, they started to get into a lot of conflicts because of their different outlooks on life including marriage, children and financial prospects. They’ve been separated for two months now, and she’s not sure if they should get back together. 

Ask A Man 27 July '26: 'Tired of the silence every time he faces a tough time.'

Anonymous started dating a guy early this year after he moved into her neighbourhood late last year. He’s generally a great partner when he’s around but he has a tendency to switch off and ghost her. When he’s back he showers her with gifts, and wants to act as if this are fine and back to normal.

Ask a Man 24 July '26: 'I'm happy being a side but he wants to make me the main.'

Anonymous was in an 8 year long relationship that ended less than two months ago as result of her now ex partner being abusive.  Shortly after breaking up her long term partner she reached out to another guy who had been pursuing her for over a year. They started casually dating as the guy was in a relationship with someone else.  She’s was ok with the fact that he was with someone else as that would keep their relationship casual.  The guy now wants to break up with his girlfriend so he can be with anonymous but she’s not interested in having anything serious currently as she’s still recovering from her previous relationship.  She’s not sure if she should break things off him as she also does have deeper feelings for the guy.

Ask A Man 23 July '26: 'Should I accept that my relationship is bad because I cheated?

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost 9 years and says while he was the perfect gentleman when they started dating, she cheated on him in the early stages of their relationship.  After that he was a changed man and was also cheating on her. At some point he got physically violent towards her after he incorrectly believed  that she had slept with his best friend. They broke up after this incident but got back together because she was pregnant with their child, who was born in 2022. He continued to be unfaithful and they’ve been in an on-and-off relationship since then as result of his cheating.

Ask a Man 22 July '26: 'I love my wife, but I love my side too.'

Anonymous has been with his wife for 8 years and they’ve been married for two of those years.  He has been in a relationship with another woman for the last three years. His wife once found out about the other woman, he left lady no.2 as a result but ended up getting back together with lady no.2 without his wife knowing.  His wife has once again caught on to his side relationship and has given him an ultimatum. He, however, loves both women and would like to pursue a polygamous relationship, but he’s note sure how to go about it. 

Ask A Man 21 July '26: 'I have no voice in our relationship.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years and says the most part their relationship has been great.  They struggle with conflict management in the relationship and she feels like he doesn’t really consider her feelings or her needs.  He also says she doesn’t take accountability for her actions, but she feels like it’s actually the other way around.  While she thinks he’s a nice guy, she’s not sure if he’s good at being a romantic partner. 

Ask A Man 20 July '26: 'Struggling with monogamy.'

Anonymous was caught cheating by his partner yesterday after she looked through his phone, while he was sleeping, and saw texts between him and a lady he cheated on her with, who is now pregnant with his child.  He says he was a womaniser for many years and he’s now in a committed relationship but is struggling to say no when ladies make advances towards him.  He knows this is a problem, and he wants to change but he’s struggling. 

Ask A Man 17 July '26: 'He has potential but comes with lots of emotional baggage.'

Anonymous is in her mid-twenties and is currently dating a man who’s ten years older than her.  They met online and got to know each other really well as they were chatting a lot. Through this he was able to share that his mother is not well, dealing with a metal health issue. She’s since met his sister who is also dealing with a mental health issue.  He did reveal to her that he once went through a depression when he went through a tough time in his business which he lost. Times are tough in his family and he’s struggling with this, which has affected their relationship. 

Ask A Man 16 July '26: 'My brother won't allow me to get married.'

Anonymous says her brother is the problem in her relationship. They don’t have parents and it’s just the two of them at home.  She has been with her partner for a while, they came into their relationship with children and she’s now pregnant with their first child.  Her partner wants to marry her but her brother is refusing, which is blocking the traditional processes they need to follow in order to get married.  This is now affecting her relationship with her partner, who’s not happy that they can’t be a family because of her brother. 

Ask A Man 15 July '26: 'My husband is a serial cheat'

Anonymous met her husband back in 2014 and he was living abroad, for his studies and work. He moved back home as a result of the COVID pandemic.  She realised that he had actually been with other people during his time away but they were able to move forward from this.  Over the last few years he’s been working at a local tertiary institution and she says he’s been caught cheating with students and other people at the school multiple times. 

Ask A Man 10 July '26: 'She was a virgin when we met and she's still not into intimacy.'

Ask A Man 14 July "Is it my girlfriend or bestfriend that is lying to me?"

Ask A Man 13 July "My partner disciplines my children and spoils his, is this fair?"

Ask A Man 09 July '26: 'Worried about her cheating and questioning my sexuality.'

Anonymous is bisexual and has been with his female partner for about 4 years now.  They had some tough times in their relationship due to anonymous needing to deal with his past traumas, but they got through this.  Recently she started behaving a bit differently, he got suspicious, went through her phone and found that she was chatting to other guys even telling them that she’s not very serious about anonymous.  He doesn’t know how to feel about this and there’s also the matter of his sexuality

Ask A Man 08 July '26: My partner requested a threesome with her best friend.'

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about 10 years and they have three children, two children together and one from his partner’s previous relationship.  They both cheated in their relationship but forgave each other and moved forward with their relationship.  Recently they came back from a party and his partner’s friend came home with them and slept over in their house, the children weren’t there… While he was sexually busy with his partner, she suggested that they invite her friend, who was sleeping in another room, to join them in their bedroom. Anonymous said no to this suggestion…

Ask A Man - 07 July '26: 'I supported her dreams but she's now drifting away.'

Anonymous has been with his partner since about 2013 and they are now around 30 years of age.  Her partner found a job in another country and this seems to have affected their communication. She doesn’t answer his calls and when they do eventually speak she tells him that she’s busy.  Their relationship is now broken down and he doesn’t know what to do. They also adopted her sister’s child and that relationship is now in limbo. 

Ask A Man 06 July '26: 'He impregnated someone else and now wants me back.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost two years and says he’s been a good partner to her for the most part.  Throughout their relationship he’s been talking a lot about having children, however, she wasn’t ready. He recently revealed to her that he’s impregnated another lady, they ended things as a result. However, the other lady miscarried and he is now back, telling anonymous he wants to get back together, the pregnancy was a mistake…

Ask A Man 03 July '26: 'Will I ever be more than a side?'

Anonymous is in her late thirties and has one child. She’s been dating a guy on and off for about 10 years now, however, the guy has a girlfriend who he has two children with.  She was with someone else when she met him and ended up dropping that guy for this one who has a partner.  She was a side for many years but eventually gave him an ultimatum telling him to leave his main girlfriend for her but he never left the main.  She broke up with him but four months later the guy came back saying he had left his other girlfriend.  They are now dating again, however…

Ask A Man 02 July '26: "A prophecy is ruining my marriage.'

Anonymous met his wife in 2005, and they later got married after having a child in 2010. After getting married they started attending the same church, which is his church. There’s an elderly lady on the worship team at their church who stated that there’s a prophecy that anonymous would need to leave his wife for this lady’s daughter.  This information was shared with anonymous’ wife, but it was told to her as though it’s something that’s actually happening….

Ask A Man 1 July '26: 'My wife disagrees with my African spirituality believes.'

Anonymous is the eldest son in his family and only has sisters, and he’s now also married.  Her wife has deep Christian beliefs and his mother is a sangoma, so his family tends to follow Traditional African religion.  His younger sister has taken ill and his uncle suggested they visit a sangoma in Mozambique who could help his sister.  He told his wife about his intention to support his family in taking his sister to this sangoma but she didn’t take this well and said anonymous is now inviting other spirits into their home.