THE LETTER ( GUEST: BRIAN MHLANGA – Life and Leadership Coach WWW.BRIANMHLANGA.COM & REITUMETSI MTHEMBU – Registered Counselor COUNSELLING WITH REITUMETSI: Whattsapp Call INFO@REITUMETSEWELLNESS.CO.ZA

Dear Mapaseka I need to make a decision between two women; for the life of me i am struggling to choose. I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 years and she has 2 kids from a previous relationship. She is very supportive, loving and always available for my Needs. I am attracted to her, our sex life is great, i get along with her young kids But the dad of the kids is too involved for my liking; as in he wants to be around her house too often. And her family over burdens her for financial support. I have saved up for lobola, proposed and have an upcoming meeting with her family; I met someone new. As in 6 months ago and she has completely blown my mind. She is in her mid 20’s with no kids. Im 36; she is ambitious, a successful entrepreneur, and i can see a great financial future with her. I met her through my work and we have a lot in common but she does not look after me as my fiance. She is very independent and doesn't even cook. I am attracted to both of these women and love them for different reasons. I would like to have children with someone who also has no children like me. I am simply confused and would like to ask you...what makes wife material? Especially in the times we live in?

LIFE IN BALANCE #PropertyWednesday GATED COMMUNITY or FREE STANDING HOMES... Which Option is for You? ( GUEST: BUSISIWE MAHLANGU - CEO Winfred and Wolf Property Management

Gated Communities offer enhanced security, amenities, and a "lock-up-and-go" lifestyle with higher, managed costs, while free-standing homes provide maximum privacy, autonomy over property modifications, and no HOA fees, but require independent maintenance and security. Gated communities often yield higher resale values, whereas free-standing homes offer more space and fewer strict rules. Gated Communities (Security & Convenience) Pros: Superior, 24/7 security (access control, cameras), shared amenities (parks, pools, gyms), lower maintenance (landscaping), and stronger community, which often leads to higher resale value. Cons: Higher property prices and levy/HOA fees, strict rules/regulations, potential lack of privacy, and, sometimes, limited space or smaller erf Free-Standing Homes (Privacy & Freedom) Pros: Greater privacy with no shared walls, full ownership over renovations and garden design, no homeowners' association (HOA) fees, and typically more space. Cons: Higher responsibility for maintenance and security, no shared facilities, and potentially lower resale value appreciation compared to secure estates.

MIND BODY AND SOUL - MIND & SOUL ( GUEST: GUGU MBUKU (also known as Pastor G) - Author “I Had To Leave To Live” A Journey of Courage, Transition, and Holistic Living (in-studio) WWW.GUGUMBUKU.ORG

Are You Stuck in Survival Mode? How long have you been in this state and are you ready to turn your life around? We are joined by the Author of “I Had To Leave To Live” A Journey of Courage, Transition, and Holistic Living Gugu Mbuku.

RELATIONSHIP TUESDAY- Do We Love People for Who They Really Are? ( GUEST: KEFILWE MOJAPELO - Psychotherapist, Social Worker and and Family Law Mediator WWW.KMPSYCHOSOCIAL.CO.ZA &LEROY TAU - Author of “Confessions of a Broken Man,”; “Decoding The Love Code” and his latest book “Intimacy that Satisfies” For More info - Reach out to Leroy on 068 464 3167 and @LEROYTAU on Facebook

Loving people for who they are means accepting their full selves—flaws, strengths, and quirks—rather than an idealized version or what they provide for you. While true, deep love embraces the individual, human connection often blends this acceptance with how people make us feel, the similarity-attraction effect, or the comfort they bring

MONDAY MENDAY - MINDING YOUR MONEY as a Man ( GUEST: BONGANI LUVALO - Author A Father, A Stranger: Mzantsi’s Memoirs of Fatherhood and Ntliziyo Ungumkhohlisi : Falling in Love with an It Girl WWW.COOLDADSFOUNDATION.CO.ZA @Bongani_Luvalo on Instagram &TEBOHO NTHOANA - Founder of Nono Capital & Social

Making conscious and well planned decisions with your finances. We know of the men who will pay the alcohol bill when out with friends before paying for school fees for his kids; let's look at the man who ensures he takes care of himself and family first before any other activity.

OPENLINE MONDAYS - On Sinenhlanhla’s Mind : Stories Making Headlines (GUEST: SINENHLANHLA MNGUNI - Director at SN Mnguni Attorneys SN MNGUNI ATTORNEYS INC/ 010 449 9705 info@mnguniinc.co.za

THE HOT SEAT (GUEST: AYANDA ALLIE Member of the Gauteng Provincial Legislature for BOSA (Build One South Africa)

She is a Mandela Washington Fellow 2018, Mail & Guardian 200 Young South Africans to look out for in 2019, Founder of Bukho Bami Youth Centre, Broadcaster, Government Communicator. She joins us tonight to talk Life, Love, Music and All

AFRICAN SPIRITUALITY- Minding Your Children’s and Parenting Energy (GUEST: GOG’ BOJOUR TEXT (NOT CALL GOGO) ON 076 799 1303 WWW.GOGBOJOUR.CO.ZA

Minding Your Children’s and Parenting Energy

MIND BODY AND SOUL- SKINCARE OPENLINE ( GUEST: DR. JUDEY PRETORIOUS - Biomedical Scientist and product development specialist

RELATIONSHIP TUESDAY- Women as Breadwinners Is it time to rethink how we perceive this reality? ( GUEST: COACH CATHY - Life Coach, NeuroLinguistic & LEROY TAU - Author of “Confessions of a Broken Man,”; “Decoding The Love Code” and his latest book “Intimacy that Satisfies”

Women as Breadwinners …Is it time to rethink how we perceive this reality? Women are increasingly becoming primary breadwinners, with nearly 38% to 43% of households in South Africa relying on women as the main financial providers.

MONDAY MENDAY ...Last Month we featured the author of “This Country Hates our Boys ; Boy you are on your own" by Transformative Leader Dr. Mzamo Masito. ( GUEST: BONGANI LUVALO - Author A Father, A Stranger: Mzantsi’s Memoirs of Fatherhood and Ntliziyo Ungumkhohlisi : Falling in Love with an It Girl WWW.COOLDADSFOUNDATION.CO.ZA @Bongani_Luvalo on Instagram &DR. MZAMO MASITO - Author of “This Country Hates Our Men (slash)/ Boys; Boy you are on your own” and Chief Opportunity Officer of African Men Care

We zone in on the themes and challenges faced by boys and men and how we can turn them around.

OPENLINE MONDAYS - On THABO’s Mind : Constitutional Court ruling on customary marriages ( GUEST: - THABO MASOMBUKA - Senior Legal Practitioner EMAIL him to ThaboM2024@gmail.com

South Africa’s latest Constitutional Court ruling on customary marriages means that many South Africans getting married need to plan carefully. The ruling confirmed that customary marriages in South Africa are automatically in community of property. The judgement was handed down late January 2026, overturned a High Court ruling that had found part of the Recognition of Customary Marriages Act unconstitutional.

SONA (GUEST: THABISO NDEBELE - Associate Partner at the Ntiyiso Consulting Group

This will be the 2nd State of the Nation Address (SONA) of the 7th Administration under the Government of National Unity (GNU). It comes at a time when South Africans are watching the Madlanga Commission and Ad Hoc Committee on the corruption of politicians, the police and judiciary.

THE LETTER ( GUEST: BRIAN MHLANGA – Life and Leadership Coach WWW.BRIANMHLANGA.COM & REITUMETSI MTHEMBU – Registered Counselor COUNSELLING WITH REITUMETSI: Whatsapp Call INFO@REITUMETSEWELLNESS.CO.ZA

Dear Mapaseka I'm a 31 year old man who's been single for 2 years and a couple of months, honestly I've lost count , I ghosted my now ex girlfriend because I lost my job and didn't know how to continue being in a relationship with her,or maybe I just feared how powerless and insecure I felt . She tried to call me and check on me ,comfort me and told me she didn't care that i am unemployed and that she truly loved me but I messed it up by not having the courage to face her at my lowest. Last year I got a job ,I made contact with her and she didn't want anything to do with me for some time now ive been texting and calling even though my number was blocked. Until recently she called and said if I want to talk to her so badly I know where to find her . Now im really scared reach out because I don't even know what to say or do , or maybe im just scared she will reject me and all this time I've been single not even a one night stand; that's how much I love this girl but I don't know what to do or say when I go to see her ....any advice. JACOB

LIFE IN BALANCE: FAMILY VALUES (GUEST: MBULELO MAYIKANA - Author of “Choices and Decision Making”; Founder of Contemporary Conversations WWW.MBULELO.CO.ZA & ZODWA – Married for 21 Years

Building Healthy and Loving Relationships. What does it require from both partners? We heard part of the story last week when she shared it during the #IntimateYou Book Launch. Together for 26 years and married for 21 years. Zodwa is not feeling loved; Respected or protected in her marriage. Yesterday she found muti in her lotion and her husband says he knows nothing about this and yet she states he has done this before and admitted to It. Do they have a relationship to rebuild?

MONDAY MENDAY - VALENTINES FOR MEN; WHAT IS YOUR IDEAL EXPERIENCE? ( GUEST: TEBOHO NTHOANA - Founder of Nono Capital & Social Commentator

Saturday 14 Feb is Valentines Day; We often hear men saying it's all designed for women. How do you want to experience Valentine's Day as a man?

OPENLINE MONDAYS- What is Making Headlines in Your Life today? Its Legal Monday with SINENHLANHLA MNGUNI - Director at SN Mnguni Attorneys SN MNGUNI ATTORNEYS INC/ 010 449 9705 info@mnguniinc.co.za

SAPS quality management head, Brigadier Rachel Matjeng, told the Madlanga Commission on Friday that she was sad on hearing that her employer had cancelled the contract with Vusumuzi “Cat” Matlala, whom she referred to as her lover.

Intimate You: Your Relationship Pocketbook Book Launch & Valentine's Special Broadcast | 3rd and 4thPillars

🎤3rd Pillar | Communication and Conflict with Reitumetse Mthembu and Brian Mhlanga  🎤4th Pillar | Commitment and Choice with Coach Cathy and Bongani Luvalo  Intimate You: Your Relationship Pocketbook Book Launch & Valentine's Special Broadcast

Intimate You: Your Relationship Pocketbook Book Launch & Valentine's Special Broadcast | 1st and 2nd Pillars

🎤1st Pillar | Relationship with Self / Self Awareness  with Anele Ndlovu and Leroy Tau  🎤2nd Pillar Emotional Safety and Trust  with Prof. Mathews Katjene and Busie The Therapist #LifeLoveAndAll with Mapaseka Mokwele  Intimate You: Your Relationship Pocketbook Book Launch & Valentine's Special Broadcast

MIND BODY AND SOUL - NATIONAL PREGNANCY WEEK ( GUEST: DR. SIVIWE MILA - General Practitioner and Resident Life Love and All Medical Expert & DR. ALICIA PORTER - Member of the South African Society of Psychiatrists

Tonight we zone in on how Untreated depression can endanger both mother and baby